If you've been in the cafe lately, you might have noticed that we're changing our menu. We are moving toward a much more streamlined beverage and pastry focused menu, and discontinuing many of our more time-consuming dishes to better focus on giving you the best in coffee, kink and community services.
We will continue to offer our full beverage menu -- including our world-class milkshakes -- and will keep offering pastries and light fare throughout the day. We are working with our partners to bring in lots of new items we didn't have room for previously, and we'll keep making some of our best items in house. (If you love our authentic hummus, or live for our banana bread, don't fret! Those are staying around.) We are also making room for some fun evening specials -- so stay tuned as we clear out the old and make room for the new!
What will mean for you is much faster service, and more time to give you what you're REALLY here for -- the community education, guidance and "kink concierge services" that you simply won't find anywhere else -- and more space for quality gear.
Thursday October 31st
At The Annex:
Join us at the Annex on Halloween night for a special evening to explore the witchy side of life. Fetlife Facebook Meetup We're opening the Annex from 7-9:30pm for tarot readings, poetry, and art in honor of the Beloved Dead.
DIY scrying and divination stations
Co-created altars to honor our ancestors of blood, spirit and leather
Experienced tarot readers (please tip your reader!)
A brief ritual to honor the turn of the year
A night of art and magick in sex-positive space
Whether you live and breathe the witchy woo, or are simply curious about finding real magick on this auspicious night, you are welcome to join us!
Friday November 1st
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch Fetlife,
Facebook will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday November 2nd
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munchwill be meeting from
2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching one of their Kink 101 classes, Welcome to Wicked Grounds from 12-2pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? This Kink 101 class gives you the basics on the San Francisco BDSM scene, and is perfect whether you're new to kink, new to the public scene, want to learn more about local BDSM play and education, even just want to know what the heck happens at a kink cafe. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene and San Francisco's very own kink café. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you're planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month from 3-5:30pm. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. This month’s topics are power exchange and the other is TBD. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Offsite:
We will be vending at MindQuake, a hypnosis convention in the East Bay. Our booth will be open during the convention on November 2nd and 3rd. Tickets for the convention can be purchased here.
Sunday November 3rd
At The Annex:
impossiblepain will be teaching Intro to Rough Body Play from 1-3pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup You don't have to be a muscly lumberjack to pummel some butts. This class offers basic training to transform tops into tools for SM or sensation play. There will be significant class content for bottoms who are curious about the smashing good times they can have with rough body play. This 101-level class promises to pack a punch! It will surely impact your play style! You will learn:

• Safety and negotiation tips
• Anatomy and body mechanics
• Techniques for giving and receiving spanking, slapping, punching, pressure points, and more
• Skills for pain and sensation processing
• Adapting rough body play for different bodies and abilities
• Incorporating rough body play into sexytimes or other kinds of kinky play
• And several unabashed puns referencing consensual violence!
  Considering kicking it solo in this class? No problem! You will have the opportunity to practice on yourself or the instructor, or simply to observe, voyeurism is participation!
  Beat the crowds and grab your tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.

Warrior Workout with Fox will be from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupDesigned to build well-rounded modern warriors, this MMA seminar blends the best of martial arts and fitness with social justice. Warmup workout, core technique training, special topics and guest instructors, HIIT workout, cool down and closing discussion. Emphasis on functional movement and corrective exercise because health and injury prevention is also self-defense. We develop powerful, resourceful, ethical, and compassionate warriors and leaders. This path to personal development builds confidence, discipline, and resilience is offered at Wicked Grounds Annex with a specific focus on kink, sex, poly, queer positivity, and consent culture. We will be exploring how this shifts our school culture and influences change in other communities, especially in the martial arts and kink. Open to all levels and abilities. Modifications and technique alternatives are an integral part of the system. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Our Pack Night series with Mx. Davey Faye starts again with Discovering Your Inner Primal from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Welcome to PACK NIGHT! Our first stroll out of human shoes onto our wild limbs invites your curiosity, your willing heart, and your sense of adventure to come out and play! For first time attendees or old pack members alike, this is a delightful opportunity to feel out the more innocent side of primal existence, the young and eager fledgling notions, the whimsical sweetness of primals only just discovering their power. Unlock new identities and invite a spirit of insight through physicality, sound, and guided narration. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday November 1st
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is The Power Exchange and Practice of Tea Service in Kink Fetlife Facebook For those of us who long to bring service and meditation into our daily and kinky lives, tea can be a great place to bring those together. In this class, we will use discussion and demos to explore one major tea tradition and how it can be adapted by an individual, partnership, or group to practice service, artistry, meditation, and any number of less wholesome kinky activities. We'll discuss some of the types of stories you can tell in a tea scene and really break into the potential it has as a medium for a huge variety of scene types. This will be taught primarily from the perspective of the bottom/server, but an experienced tea scene Top will be there as well to answer questions and bring his own perspective on how to get the best tea service you could want.
Tuesday November 2nd
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
From 7-9pm the Godless Perverts Social Club will be meeting.
At The Annex:
The author of The Heart of Dominance and The Dominance Playbook, Anton Fulmen, will be teaching a class on Orgasm Denial from 7-9pm. Fetlife FacebookMeetup Delaying or denying orgasm can build the most delicious tension. Controlling when your partner gets to orgasm can inspire desperate devotion. But to realize orgasm denial's full erotic potential, there's a lot more to it than just saying "no." Learn how to drive your partner into a frustrated frenzy with the right combination of teasing, edging and firm control. We'll talk about both short term delay within a scene, and long term denial that can unfold over months. We'll also share ideas for the person doing the denying do amuse and enjoy themselves with their partner's predicament. This class is run through the Society of Janus. Please purchase tickets in advance through their site here or at the door.
Wednesday November 3rd
In The Cafe:
Rope Bite is from 7-9pm. Fetlife Whether you've been tying up your friends your whole life or have just picked up your first piece of rope, everyone is welcome to join in for this light social event, held the first Wednesday of every month. Drink a cup of coffee or tea, meet new friends, and learn about how to tie or be tied. Bring rope if you've got it, but we have plenty you can borrow. This is a pansexual, all-inclusive gathering for those over 18 (age requirement for the café).
At The Annex:
Loud & Queer’s A Sip Of… series continues with Knife Play from 7-9pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Come join other curious folk for a crash course in a new kink topic every month and/or to simply drink tea with the kinky community! This months event will be a beginner focused workshop on knife play with open dialogue between participants and instructors. All participation levels welcome! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Thursday November 7th
In The Cafe:
The Black and Pink Letter Writing Munch occurs from 6-8pm. Facebook Every month on the 1st Thursday, we’ll have birthday cards to our trans, queer, and HIV+ members in nearby California prisons AND penpal info, so join us for whatever your pleasure is (and invite your friends)! We will have info on folks to send letters to, all the supplies, and ways to get more involved in the movement to abolish prisons. Letter Writing is one incredible way we have to overcome the isolation intended by the PIC. This is an important way to show solidarity and show community support with our incarcerated LGBTQ+ and HIV+ community members!
At The Annex:
Join PsychoKitty for Getting Started with Rope Bondage from 7-9pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Have you seen people pulling out rope for a bondage scene, and it looks fun but overwhelming? This class is perfect for you. We will talk about how to choose the best rope for particular bondage styles, including samples of rope types to feel and explore the different advantages they offer. We will work on some fundamental ties that can get you started, like single and double column ties. And most importantly, the good places on the body to put rope. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday November 8th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday November 9th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching a day long seminar on Kabbalah from 10am-6:30pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Kabbalah doesn't need to be obscure, pedantic, or boring. It can be fun, experiential - and maybe even a little dishy. Anyone can master the basics in only a few hours - and the rest, as they say, is commentary. In this class, beginners will quickly become acquainted with the fundamentals of Kabbalah, while more experienced practitioners will gain deeper perspectives into the origins of Kabbalah and its continuing relevance to modern magickians.
Topics include:

• The Big Bang and the Ain Soph Aur
• The PARDES interpretive tradition
• Four Letters, Four Worlds, and Three Souls
• The Sephirot
• Hebrew Letters - Categories, Cubes, and a Bit of Gossip
• Intro to Tarot and Kabbalah
• Putting it All Together

Each topic will have plenty of time for meditation, magick and exercises to dive deep into the subject, and we will close with a co-created exercise to build our own tree and imbue it with meaning using the tools we have learned. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday November 10th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
At The Annex:
Join us for Mir’s Kink 101: Dating While Kinky from 1-3pm. Fetlife FacebookMeetup Whether you're doing online dating, speed dating, blind dates, or the million other ways we meet people, it's hard enough to be yourself and just get to know the someone -- or several someones -- best for you.
Add a desire for fetish/ kink/ leather/ BDSM to the mix, and things get even trickier. When do you talk about kink? How do you talk about it? How do you get what you want safely? In this Kink 101 session, we'll talk about a variety of strategies for navigating the dating world as a kinkster, including:

• Dating resources in the kink community
• Online dating sites/ apps that work for kinksters, and a lot that don't . . .
• How to navigate those first few crucial dates
• Red flags and green lights to watch for
• Basic negotiations
• Choosing Mx. Right Now, and Mx. Right

Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
From 3:30-5:30pm Click Your Heels Presents: Lap Dancing For Kinksters. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Learn simple and easy moves and rules to give a lap dance to any person you choose, with any type of music you like. No dance experience required. We will teach you to make the most of your natural instincts. Lap dancing can be used to showcase the feminine or masculine energy of the dancer. Lap dancing can be used to emphasize the submission or dominance of the dancer in relation to the receiver. We will cover how the traditional fundamentals of lap dancing can be easily applied to a huge variety of kink scenes, including but not limited to D/s, impact, needles, S/M of all sorts, bondage of all sorts including rope, bootblacking, age play, humiliation, etc. We will also cover the etiquette of receiving a lap dance: when to hold still, when to move, how to sit/stand/etc, when and how to touch the dancer, and how to contribute to a great experience for both of you. No partner required: Individuals, couples, and more-somes all welcome. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.
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Sunday October 27th
In The Cafe:
The Kinky Spirituality Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Join us for a scintillating conversation of the convergence of Kink/BDSM and Spirituality. The thoughts we bring, the intention, consciousness, and presence are more important than what we do. Consciousness and intention are the foundations of the sacred. The munch welcomes all spiritual and religious paths and is not based on any particular systems of practice. Each month we have a discussion on the intersection of Spirituality and Kink focusing on a particular topic.
Monday October 28th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Bondage: More Than One Way to Bind. Fetlife Facebook Meetup In this class you will be introduced to new and different ways to think about and experience "bondage." Curious to learn more? Come join us. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday October 29th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup Fetlife Facebook will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
At The Annex:
RodeoKitten will be teaching Fluid Dynamics from 7-9pm. Fetlife MeetupFacebook Do you have multiple dynamics or roles you like to play with your partner(s)? This workshop is built to help partners successfully negotiate and navigate relationships of 2+ with various power exchange structures. Using communication styles such as keywords and body language, learn where to draw clear lines and where to leave things open-ended. Along with a live demo and class activities, we will assist you in streamlining your ability to flow from one role to another. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday October 30th
Com celebrate the holiday at Bondage A Go Go: Halloween Eve. Fetlife FacebookIf this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday October 31st
At The Annex:
Join us at the Annex on Halloween night for a special evening to explore the witchy side of life. Fetlife Facebook Meetup We're opening the Annex from 7-9:30pm for tarot readings, poetry, and art in honor of the Beloved Dead.
DIY scrying and divination stations
Co-created altars to honor our ancestors of blood, spirit and leather
Experienced tarot readers (please tip your reader!)
A brief ritual to honor the turn of the year
A night of art and magick in sex-positive space
Whether you live and breathe the witchy woo, or are simply curious about finding real magick on this auspicious night, you are welcome to join us!
Friday November 1st
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch Fetlife,
Facebook will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday November 2nd
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munchwill be meeting from
2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching one of their Kink 101 classes, Welcome to Wicked Grounds from 12-2pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? This Kink 101 class gives you the basics on the San Francisco BDSM scene, and is perfect whether you're new to kink, new to the public scene, want to learn more about local BDSM play and education, even just want to know what the heck happens at a kink cafe. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene and San Francisco's very own kink café. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you're planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month from 3-5:30pm. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. This month’s topics are power exchange and the other is TBD. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Offsite:
We will be vending at MindQuake, a hypnosis convention in the East Bay. Our booth will be open during the convention on November 2nd and 3rd. Tickets for the convention can be purchased here.
Sunday November 3rd
At The Annex:
impossiblepain will be teaching Intro to Rough Body Play from 1-3pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup You don't have to be a muscly lumberjack to pummel some butts. This class offers basic training to transform tops into tools for SM or sensation play. There will be significant class content for bottoms who are curious about the smashing good times they can have with rough body play. This 101-level class promises to pack a punch! It will surely impact your play style! You will learn:

• Safety and negotiation tips
• Anatomy and body mechanics
• Techniques for giving and receiving spanking, slapping, punching, pressure points, and more
• Skills for pain and sensation processing
• Adapting rough body play for different bodies and abilities
• Incorporating rough body play into sexytimes or other kinds of kinky play
• And several unabashed puns referencing consensual violence!
  Considering kicking it solo in this class? No problem! You will have the opportunity to practice on yourself or the instructor, or simply to observe, voyeurism is participation!
  Beat the crowds and grab your tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.

Warrior Workout with Fox will be from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupDesigned to build well-rounded modern warriors, this MMA seminar blends the best of martial arts and fitness with social justice. Warmup workout, core technique training, special topics and guest instructors, HIIT workout, cool down and closing discussion. Emphasis on functional movement and corrective exercise because health and injury prevention is also self-defense. We develop powerful, resourceful, ethical, and compassionate warriors and leaders. This path to personal development builds confidence, discipline, and resilience is offered at Wicked Grounds Annex with a specific focus on kink, sex, poly, queer positivity, and consent culture. We will be exploring how this shifts our school culture and influences change in other communities, especially in the martial arts and kink. Open to all levels and abilities. Modifications and technique alternatives are an integral part of the system. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Our Pack Night series with Mx. Davey Faye starts again with Discovering Your Inner Primal from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Welcome to PACK NIGHT! Our first stroll out of human shoes onto our wild limbs invites your curiosity, your willing heart, and your sense of adventure to come out and play! For first time attendees or old pack members alike, this is a delightful opportunity to feel out the more innocent side of primal existence, the young and eager fledgling notions, the whimsical sweetness of primals only just discovering their power. Unlock new identities and invite a spirit of insight through physicality, sound, and guided narration. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Thursday October 17th
In The Cafe:
Are you between the ages of 18 and 40 and are you interested in meeting people with similar interests, both vanilla and kinky? If so, you should join SFTNG for our special edition “caffeine hour.” We will be meeting from 7-9:30pm in the back of the cafe.
At The Annex:
PACK NIGHT! with Mx. Davey Faye will be from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupUnleash the inner wild in a group format! PACK NIGHT is an intentionally created, recurring safer space for manifesting your evolving primal. What does your primal sound like, feel like how does it move, can it play well with others? Using somatic movement and vocal exercises aimed to help you tap into the beastly beauty within, as well as emotional activators through eye contact and improvisation, the circle will be led to fall into a pack mind, blending the fierce (and the more sensitive) primal energies in the room with the common goal to release and revel in our creature-selves. Explore different animalistic embodiments, give yourself permission to growl and howl, coo and hiss, and discover elements of your own identity previously hidden from view. Challenge assumptions of how you should be and unveil new ways to connect with others. Over time as our pack grows and changes, the initiation exercises will adapt to communal calling. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday October 18th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday October 19th
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
From 12-3pm join us for Cal’s Toy Making Workshop. Fetlife Facebook MeetupHave you ever wanted to make your own impact toys or restraints, but weren't sure how to start? Wouldn't it be amazing if you could work with an expert leatherworker to guide you through the process step by step? Well, now you can! Join us for a special hands-on toy-making workshop with Rough Cut Leather! Advance ticketing highly recommended so we can plan to have the materials you need on-site! Purchase through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday October 20th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
At The Annex:
Puppy Dog will be teaching The Adult First Aid/CPR/AED plus Bloodborne Pathogens class from 11:30am- 5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Whether you need this certification for your profession, or are wanting to learn life-saving first aid knowledge as a Good Samaritan, this class will provide crucial skills and information to help out in an emergency situation. The Adult First Aid/CPR/AED plus Bloodborne Pathogens class incorporates the latest science and teaches students to recognize and care for a variety of first aid emergencies such as burns, cuts, scrapes, sudden illnesses, head, neck, back injuries, heat and cold emergencies, how bloodborne pathogens are spread, how to avoid exposure and what to do if exposed to infectious material, and how to respond to breathing and cardiac emergencies for people12 years and older. Successful students will receive a certificate for Bloodborne Pathogens Training valid for one year AND a certificate for Adult First Aid/CPR/AED valid for two years. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday October 21st
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
From 7pm- 9pm The Non-Monogamous Munch for the Young and Young at Heart will be meeting. This is a gathering for chatting, socializing, and generally getting up to wacky hijinks at Wicked Grounds. Traditionally this munch has been for those under 40, but we recently nixed the age restriction, everyone is welcome! We encourage folks of any age to attend, with the realization that this group tends to draw a younger crowd.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is A Journey Into Being A Top. Fetlife Facebook What is a Dom? What is a Top? If you’re curious about the left side of the slash and what that means, this class is about what I’ve learned on my journey to being a sensual and sadistic Top. There is an art to topping, and many ways to go about it. This class provides a perspective on the topic. You will learn some do's and don'ts, as well as some insights, tips, tools, and tricks. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday October 22nd
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Afterwards, the Self-Suspenders Munch Fetlife will be meeting in the back from 7:30-9:00pm for folks with previous rope experience looking to expand their suspension skills.
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community FetlifeFacebook, Meetup This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday October 23rd
In The Cafe:
The Littles Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook If you are interested in or curious about Ageplay, this is the perfect munch for you! We are the Littles Munch, a local meetup for Ageplayers of all kinds to hang out, discuss, and color! So whether you are a Big, little, or still exploring, everyone is welcome to join the fun!
Bondage A Go Go will be hosting Night Of A 1000 Wednesdays Fetlife FacebookIf this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
At The Annex:
The San Francisco Dominant/submissive Discussion Group will be meeting from 7:30-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This group is a monthly assembly for those with an interest in D/s and M/s relationships. We are an open and inclusive group that welcomes everyone who is interested in power exchange, control, protocol, service, and so forth, regardless of what their experience is or of which side of the dynamic slash they are on.
Thursday October 24th
In The Cafe:
The Ace Munch for Nonsexualized Kink will take place from 6:30-7:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Two commonly misunderstood concepts can make the kink scene intimidating to those who may not want sexualized kinky experiences, but still want to explore the joys of rope, bdsm, primal play, and more! Not every Asexual person is celibate and not all kink has to be sexualized! If you fall into either category, or are just generally ace-friendly, come relax with other like-minded folx in a sex positive, but not sex active, space! This monthly meetup is led by @AnxiousAceAya and their lovely allo-liason Azery.
Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.
At The Annex:
Bri Burning, Northwest Person of Leather, will be teaching Service: Giving and Receiving from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup You must pour into yourself before you can give to others. Service is a soul searching task from both sides of the slash. In this class we will discuss service from many perspectives, how to accept service, and how to communicate what all parties involved need. There will be sexy demos displaying many types of service. Come and see what service can do for you. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Ticketsor at the door.
Friday October 25th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday October 26th
At The Annex:
Come join Cal for TURN UP THE HEAT from 4-6pm!! A wax play class for kinky fun and sexy creativity! Fetlife Facebook Meetup Wax play is a great way to play with sensation and build kinky & sensual connection. It's actually easy to do, but comes with a lot of questions for newcomers, like . . .
What kind of candle can I use?
Will any wax work? (Spoiler alert: no!)
How hot is too hot?
Doesn't it hurt on the pink parts?!
What happens if it gets 'inside'?
How the hell do I clean this mess up?!
Get these and all your other questions answered in this fun, hands-on wax play workshop.
RoughCutLeather will safely guide you through a fun, hands-on, informative wax play session while teaching you the do's and don'ts of wax play. You'll learn what candles or wax to use and how to use wax safely for both kinky fun and sexy creativity! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Ticketsor at the door.
Sunday October 27th
In The Cafe:
The Kinky Spirituality Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Join us for a scintillating conversation of the convergence of Kink/BDSM and Spirituality. The thoughts we bring, the intention, consciousness, and presence are more important than what we do. Consciousness and intention are the foundations of the sacred. The munch welcomes all spiritual and religious paths and is not based on any particular systems of practice. Each month we have a discussion on the intersection of Spirituality and Kink focusing on a particular topic.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Friday October 11th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday October 12th
In The Cafe:
CAFE WILL NOT OPEN UNTIL 2PM TODAY FOR A PRIVATE EVENT.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Sunday October 13th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
At The Annex:
Join Fox and Faye for Seat of Power: Sub Skills and Switch Empowerment from 3-6pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Switch it up with us! No matter what side of the slash you are on, there are ALWAYS skills to be learned, re-learned, un-learned, expanded, honed and challenged along the journey of conscious BDSM play. Discussion topics will include consent practices, communication and negotiation, and a brief overview of the psychology of different approaches to power exchange (including top/bottom, D/s, M/s, service, pet play, big/little, and mentorship). Hands-on practice with pain management and breath exercises, meditation, and position training is intended for all players to develop self-awareness, self-discipline, and unearth their warrior heart - you can harness these skills to bring back into the bedroom, dungeon, as well as food for your own personal path of growth. Class is dedicated to a focus on accessibility for all bodies as well as the mind and spirit and reflects on therapeutic benefits of BDSM as well as concerns for long term self-care and corrective exercises. The impact of trauma, disability, and socialization of privileged and marginalized communities is examined while fostering mechanisms of compassion for self, and empathy for others. Explore your curiosities and question internal assumptions while using somatic techniques, theatre drills and primal expression as access points for the seasoned and uncertain switch alike. This class also introduces concepts surrounding self-collaring, service switching, and nonbinary relationship structures. Leave with new and revived grounding and empowerment skills, release from socially engendered shame, and intuitive insight to human experiences of both vulnerabilities, and victory. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday October 14th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
New to kink or the community and looking for a good place to start? Come to the Society of Janus Newcomers Only Crash Course. Join us and fellow newcomers on the second Monday of the month. You can come as many times as you like while you still consider yourself new(ish) to the scene, usually up to one year. We'll answer questions and share experiences in an open respectful and casual setting.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is The Art of Negotiations. Fetlife Facebook Join us as James Sposato offers a comprehensive look at one of the first, and arguably most important details of a scene... the negotiation. This class is for pick-up players, authority exchange participants and anyone else who would like to experience as fulfilling a scene as possible. He will cover the continuum of negotiation, methods of effective negotiation and most importantly knowing what to negotiate for. Like he says, "It doesn't matter if you can run a six-flogger Florentine to Flight of the Bumblebee for forty-five minutes, if you cannot communicate your desires and expectations nor hear those of your partner, you'll never get a chance to do it." You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday October 15th
In The Cafe:
From 11am-1pm the Kinky Entrepreneurs Munch Fetlife will be meeting. This munch is sponsored by the Bay Area Kinky Business Alliance and is a perfect fit for owners of kink-oriented businesses, as well as anyone who is active in the kink community and welcomes kinky clients. This month’s topic is Public Speaking. Improv exercises break down public interactions to smaller, consumable pieces to provide that experience. From 1pm-5pm the Entrepreneurs Munch Co-Working hours with BAKBA will take place.
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experience riggers in action.
The SF submissive Safe Space will take place from 7:30-9pm. Fetlife MeetupFacebook SF Submissive Safe Space is a facilitated discussion group open to all s-types! The group provides a safe space to share, be heard, learn, and grow with opportunities to connect with others.
SFsSS is open to adults having a sincere, positive, personal interest in M/s, D/s, or power exchange and who agree to keep confidential what transpires at the meeting. This group can provide support, outside perspective, sharpening of skills, and community.
At The Annex:
The Intermediate Poly Workshop will be meeting from 7-9pm. Fetlife FacebookMeetup This is a series of monthly workshops where we'll tackle more advanced poly topics as a group. The idea of a topic being more advanced in poly simply stems from the fact that these topics usually arise after someone's been doing poly for a while. These groups are open to absolutely anyone of any level who wants to attend. We just won't be devoting time to covering the usual early poly subjects like jealousy or opening up an existing relationship. The only requirement for attending is your curiosity and openness to discussion. This month we will be covering Boundaries and Negotiations. Boundaries are hard. Communication is hard. Knowing and maintaining your boundaries with multiple existing relationships on top of a constant flow of new people is even harder. So is negotiating a relationship between two different styles of poly. How do you remain accountable to your own boundaries? How do you negotiate upfront to ensure the most solid foundation for a healthy and safe interaction? What do you do to facilitate the mutual acceptance of each other's growth while continuing to evaluate whether your relationships are meeting your core needs? Bring your experiences and questions, and let's dive into the deep end of boundaries and negotiation. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday October 16th
In The Cafe:
The D/s Social Hour will take place from 7-9pm. This is a casual, coffeehouse munch for connecting with other people interested in consensual authority and control. Come to build community among others who share your passion for consensual power exchange. Share ideas and inspiration with your peers. Find support and acceptance for your power relationship, or look for a partner with whom to create a relationship.
Bondage A Go Go will be hosting Kinky Couture, Horns and Chains starting at 9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook BAGG is a San Francisco classic! If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
At The Annex:
The Crossdressing Club will be hosting a clothing exchange for Mistress Alice’s birthday during this month’s event from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupThis group emphasizes FUN instead of "passing." None of us are perfect. No one here is the gender police. All gender is performative. Beards, body hair, flat chests, big bellies, baldness, mismatched clothes and flaws bless members of all genders and do not make you automatically un-feminine. Our members span a huge spectrum of gender expression. Come be yourself at our unique and supportive community munch and adventurous afterparty! The munch will adjourn to the Cat Club afterwards for Bondage-a-Go-Go.
Thursday October 17th
In The Cafe:
Are you between the ages of 18 and 40 and are you interested in meeting people with similar interests, both vanilla and kinky? If so, you should join SFTNG for our special edition “caffeine hour.” We will be meeting from 7-9:30pm in the back of the cafe.
At The Annex:
PACK NIGHT! with Mx. Davey Faye will be from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupUnleash the inner wild in a group format! PACK NIGHT is an intentionally created, recurring safer space for manifesting your evolving primal. What does your primal sound like, feel like how does it move, can it play well with others? Using somatic movement and vocal exercises aimed to help you tap into the beastly beauty within, as well as emotional activators through eye contact and improvisation, the circle will be led to fall into a pack mind, blending the fierce (and the more sensitive) primal energies in the room with the common goal to release and revel in our creature-selves. Explore different animalistic embodiments, give yourself permission to growl and howl, coo and hiss, and discover elements of your own identity previously hidden from view. Challenge assumptions of how you should be and unveil new ways to connect with others. Over time as our pack grows and changes, the initiation exercises will adapt to communal calling. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday October 18th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday October 19th
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
From 12-3pm join us for Cal’s Toy Making Workshop. Fetlife Facebook MeetupHave you ever wanted to make your own impact toys or restraints, but weren't sure how to start? Wouldn't it be amazing if you could work with an expert leatherworker to guide you through the process step by step? Well, now you can! Join us for a special hands-on toy-making workshop with Rough Cut Leather! Advance ticketing highly recommended so we can plan to have the materials you need on-site! Purchase through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday October 20th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
At The Annex:
Puppy Dog will be teaching The Adult First Aid/CPR/AED plus Bloodborne Pathogens class from 11:30am- 5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Whether you need this certification for your profession, or are wanting to learn life-saving first aid knowledge as a Good Samaritan, this class will provide crucial skills and information to help out in an emergency situation. The Adult First Aid/CPR/AED plus Bloodborne Pathogens class incorporates the latest science and teaches students to recognize and care for a variety of first aid emergencies such as burns, cuts, scrapes, sudden illnesses, head, neck, back injuries, heat and cold emergencies, how bloodborne pathogens are spread, how to avoid exposure and what to do if exposed to infectious material, and how to respond to breathing and cardiac emergencies for people12 years and older. Successful students will receive a certificate for Bloodborne Pathogens Training valid for one year AND a certificate for Adult First Aid/CPR/AED valid for two years. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Friday October 4th
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch Fetlife,
Facebook will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday October 5th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munchwill be meeting from
2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching one of their Kink 101 classes, Welcome to Wicked Grounds from 12-2pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? This Kink 101 class gives you the basics on the San Francisco BDSM scene, and is perfect whether you're new to kink, new to the public scene, want to learn more about local BDSM play and education, even just want to know what the heck happens at a kink cafe. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene and San Francisco's very own kink café. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you're planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month from 3-5:30pm. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. This month’s topics are flogging and rope. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Sunday October 6th
At the Annex:
Thinking all the time about that perfect class you'd like to teach?
Hearing from your friends that there's a hunger for what you know?
But you're not sure where to start? Come to Mir’s Kink Class Incubator from 12-2:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
In this class, you'll learn what you need to get a basic start teaching in kink, polyamory, fetish, magick -- or any other peer-taught subject. Of course, we'd be delighted if you plan to teach at the Annex (and we'll refund your class fee if you do!), but our goal is to create great teachers who can teach anywhere.
In this workshop, you will learn to:
Refine and sharpen your core message
Figure how what you really want to say -- what only you can
Differentiate your class based on your experience and knowledge
Market your class in ways that really work
Include your students, and learn as you teach
Give a class that makes a difference
Engage your audience and build your fans
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Warrior Workout with Fox will be from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupDesigned to build well-rounded modern warriors, this MMA seminar blends the best of martial arts and fitness with social justice. Warmup workout, core technique training, special topics and guest instructors, HIIT workout, cool down and closing discussion. Emphasis on functional movement and corrective exercise because health and injury prevention is also self-defense. We develop powerful, resourceful, ethical, and compassionate warriors and leaders. This path to personal development builds confidence, discipline, and resilience is offered at Wicked Grounds Annex with a specific focus on kink, sex, poly, queer positivity, and consent culture. We will be exploring how this shifts our school culture and influences change in other communities, especially in the martial arts and kink. Open to all levels and abilities. Modifications and technique alternatives are an integral part of the system. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday October 7th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is The Language of Cloth and Leather. Fetlife Facebook Have you ever felt that you were into something so strange that you would be alone even in the kink community? Have you ever thought that it can be impossible to meet others that have the same interests that you have? There is a "secret language" that some people in the kink community use to socially signal things about themselves and/or their interests without saying a word. Cadet Alex B. will help you become more aware of this semi-secret language and give tips on how you can use it to meet others with interests that you may not otherwise know that they have. Go and meet those kinky people you have been looking for!You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday October 8th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
The Stampede Munch will be meeting from 8-9:30pm. Meet us at Wicked Grounds for a pet play munch! Buy some yummy pastries, sandwiches and milkshakes (in a pet bowl is an option too) and join new and old friends. We announce pet play events at every munch and try to get some play time too!
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community from 7:30-9pm. Fetlife Facebook, Meetup Civilian Krav Maga is designed to be simple to learn and practical to use. In this series of classes, we'll cover self defense techniques for dealing with common attacks you might encounter on the street or in domestic situations. Choke, be choked, and escape chokes! Punch, be punched, and block punches! Come prepared for a workout, but don't worry if you have physical limitations; krav is designed to work for the body you have. This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday October 9th
In The Cafe:
Top/bottom? How about both! The Switches Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. This is a munch for those who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything in between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch.
Bondage A Go Go will start at 9:30pm with Bloodsucker’s Ball Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday October 10th
In The Cafe:
Rope Burn
Fetlife Facebook will be having their pre-jam meet up from 6-7pm before heading over to the Catalyst. This event is for male-identified, non binary and gender non conforming people interested in sharing rope tying knowledge and practicing together.
The Sex Magick Coffee Social will be meeting from 7-9pm. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.
At The Annex:
RodeoKitten will be teaching a class from their bottom-centric series from 7-9pm called Cultivating Your Why. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class is an overview of the components that determine how we form decisions/conclusions and their place in growth-oriented relationships. With the help of the Myers-Briggs personality test, let’s work together to streamline your kink fulfillment. Thru the aligning and understanding of core values with different learning modalities, we can learn to be conscious of how our perceptions of an event or task can change depending on where we chose to take it. The course is a mix of lecture, discussion, and a short demo.Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday October 11th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday October 12th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Sunday October 13th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
At The Annex:
Join Fox and Faye for Seat of Power: Sub Skills and Switch Empowerment from 3-6pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Switch it up with us! No matter what side of the slash you are on, there are ALWAYS skills to be learned, re-learned, un-learned, expanded, honed and challenged along the journey of conscious BDSM play. Discussion topics will include consent practices, communication and negotiation, and a brief overview of the psychology of different approaches to power exchange (including top/bottom, D/s, M/s, service, pet play, big/little, and mentorship). Hands-on practice with pain management and breath exercises, meditation, and position training is intended for all players to develop self-awareness, self-discipline, and unearth their warrior heart - you can harness these skills to bring back into the bedroom, dungeon, as well as food for your own personal path of growth. Class is dedicated to a focus on accessibility for all bodies as well as the mind and spirit and reflects on therapeutic benefits of BDSM as well as concerns for long term self-care and corrective exercises. The impact of trauma, disability, and socialization of privileged and marginalized communities is examined while fostering mechanisms of compassion for self, and empathy for others. Explore your curiosities and question internal assumptions while using somatic techniques, theatre drills and primal expression as access points for the seasoned and uncertain switch alike. This class also introduces concepts surrounding self-collaring, service switching, and nonbinary relationship structures. Leave with new and revived grounding and empowerment skills, release from socially engendered shame, and intuitive insight to human experiences of both vulnerabilities, and victory. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Thursday September 26th
In The Cafe:
The Ace Munch for Nonsexualized Kink will take place from 6:30-7:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Two commonly misunderstood concepts can make the kink scene intimidating to those who may not want sexualized kinky experiences, but still want to explore the joys of rope, bdsm, primal play, and more! Not every Asexual person is celibate and not all kink has to be sexualized! If you fall into either category, or are just generally ace-friendly, come relax with other like-minded folx in a sex positive, but not sex active, space! This monthly meetup is led by @AnxiousAceAya and their lovely allo-liason Azery.
Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.
At The Annex:
Join Ryan Psychokitty from 7-9pm for Improv Skills for Naughty Play. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Have you ever been ready in a scene, fully decked out in a sexy costume with your partner, but had trouble making up words to say? Then this workshop is perfect! After a short introduction we will explore improv exercises to build and develop skills that you can bring back to your own scenes. Character play builds upon words you can bring. These exercises start you on the road to find the right sexy words for your scene. Class participation is highly encouraged.Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday September 27th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 28th
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching a class from their Kink 101 series, Your First Folsom Street Fair from 1-3pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? Or perhaps you're an experienced kinkster planning for your first Folsom Street Fair tomorrow? Let Wicked Grounds help you make the most of it! We will give you an orientation on basic kink etiquette and culture, what to expect at the Fair, how to be a good citizen fairgoer, and how to explore the groups, organizations, vendors and play spaces that will help YOU explore your wild side. This Kink 101 class is also perfect if you're new to kink, new to the public scene, and want to learn more about local BDSM play and education to stay involved throughout the year. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Afterwards, join Alexandria for Leading and Following: Non Verbal Communication for D/s from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class has gotten rave reviews at Dark Odyssey Surrender, Northwest Leather, TGIF, the Citadel, and more! In this interactive class we borrow leading and following techniques from partnered dance and apply it to D/s. No dance understanding is required. No partner is required. Using simple concentration and dance techniques, we explore the internal mind/body connection for Dominants and submissives, non-verbal communication between the leader and follower, and how this works in 24/7, scenes, and more. Comfortable shoes are suggested because we will stand and walk for much of class. (Those with mobility issues easily accommodated.) Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Folsom Sunday September 29th
We will have our usual Booth out on the fairgrounds with kinky gear, books and more. The Cafe will be open 9am-9pm. This year we will also have the Annex open from 11am-7pm for a special overflow lounge, hang out space and getaway. We're opening the Wicked Grounds Annex for additional seating, and getting out the mats and toys for light play. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
Your $10-$20 suggested donation** supports the growth of the Wicked Grounds Annex educational & meeting space, and gets you all-day admission for:
Play stations at our St Andrews Cross and massage table
K9 mosh mats
Cozy cuddling spots
Overflow cafe seating (just bring up your food or drink from Wicked Grounds Cafe!)
Two clean bathrooms (!!!)
Space to dress up
Ice cold La Croix
Special door prizes (need not be present to win!)
All of your favorite friends!
You'll get a special wristband with your first admission that will give you in-and-out access throughout the day. Just need a break from the crowds? Use your wristband to drop by for a place to sit or a clean bathroom throughout the day. Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Food and drink ARE allowed in the Annex, but please respect this as a sober space. No alcohol or drugs, please, and thank you.
*Are you a Wicked Grounds VIP, Kitty level or higher? Feel free to flash your Patreon level on your phone for free admission.
**This door free applies only to the upstairs Annex! No door fee for the Cafe downstairs.
Monday September 30th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Erotic and BDSM Open Mic Fetlife Facebook Erotic and kink writers and storytellers, this Foundations class is by and for YOU! Join us for this evening of community-building. What better way to get to know one another than to share our sex positive, naughty poetry and stories? Please come prepared with writing or storytelling of no longer than 10 minutes. Please note that the intention is to share things that we have written or to tell our own stories. If there is time at the end of class, we will open it up for you to share excerpts from some of your favorite erotic authors. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday October 1st
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
From 7-9pm the Godless Perverts Social Club will be meeting.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching a class from their Kink 101 series, Getting Hands on with Impact Play. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Curious to explore impact play in satisfying consensual scenes? Already playing with impact, and want to explore additional tools and techniques?
Join us for this fun, hands-on workshop!
We will cover:
Negotiation for impact play
Basic anatomy -- where to hit, and how!
Using rhythm and cadence
Building headspace in a scene
Intro to play styles - spanking, paddling, caning, flogging & rough body play
Warm-up and sensual play
Intense cathartic play
Discipline play
Aftercare & beyond
And much more!
You will walk away from this class with the basic skills you need to negotiate for, play with, and deepen your bonds after impact play -- without any tools! You'll also learn how to select the right tools and techniques for styles of play ranging from sensual to sadistic, and how to explore new kinds of play without spending a fortune on new toys.
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday October 2nd
In The Cafe:
Rope Bite is from 7-9pm. Fetlife Whether you've been tying up your friends your whole life or have just picked up your first piece of rope, everyone is welcome to join in for this light social event, held the first Wednesday of every month. Drink a cup of coffee or tea, meet new friends, and learn about how to tie or be tied. Bring rope if you've got it, but we have plenty you can borrow. This is a pansexual, all-inclusive gathering for those over 18 (age requirement for the café).
Thursday October 3rd
In The Cafe:
The Black and Pink Letter Writing Munch occurs from 6-8pm. Facebook Every month on the 1st Thursday, we’ll have birthday cards to our trans, queer, and HIV+ members in nearby California prisons AND penpal info, so join us for whatever your pleasure is (and invite your friends)! We will have info on folks to send letters to, all the supplies, and ways to get more involved in the movement to abolish prisons. Letter Writing is one incredible way we have to overcome the isolation intended by the PIC. This is an important way to show solidarity and show community support with our incarcerated LGBTQ+ and HIV+ community members!
At The Annex:
The Society of Janus will be holding a workshop from 8-10pm on Fem Men in Body Talk. Fetlife Meetup Coaching for men on stepping into your feminine side. We’ll explore movements such as sitting, standing, walking, shaking hands, and hugging through one-on-one coaching to help you find your unique body language amidst social norms. My aim is to expand our love for our bodies and broaden our range of body language, sensuality, and erotic display. Bring what you have in flats, heels, ... and skirts! Oh, and a yoga mat. Please purchase tickets in advance here or at the door.
Friday October 4th
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch Fetlife,
Facebook will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday October 5th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from
2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching one of their Kink 101 classes, Welcome to Wicked Grounds from 12-2pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? This Kink 101 class gives you the basics on the San Francisco BDSM scene, and is perfect whether you're new to kink, new to the public scene, want to learn more about local BDSM play and education, even just want to know what the heck happens at a kink cafe. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene and San Francisco's very own kink café. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you're planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday October 6th
At the Annex:
Thinking all the time about that perfect class you'd like to teach?
Hearing from your friends that there's a hunger for what you know?
But you're not sure where to start? Come to Mir’s Kink Class Incubator from 12-2:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
In this class, you'll learn what you need to get a basic start teaching in kink, polyamory, fetish, magick -- or any other peer-taught subject. Of course, we'd be delighted if you plan to teach at the Annex (and we'll refund your class fee if you do!), but our goal is to create great teachers who can teach anywhere.
In this workshop, you will learn to:
Refine and sharpen your core message
Figure how what you really want to say -- what only you can
Differentiate your class based on your experience and knowledge
Market your class in ways that really work
Include your students, and learn as you teach
Give a class that makes a difference
Engage your audience and build your fans
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Warrior Workout with Fox will be from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupDesigned to build well-rounded modern warriors, this MMA seminar blends the best of martial arts and fitness with social justice. Warmup workout, core technique training, special topics and guest instructors, HIIT workout, cool down and closing discussion. Emphasis on functional movement and corrective exercise because health and injury prevention is also self-defense. We develop powerful, resourceful, ethical, and compassionate warriors and leaders. This path to personal development builds confidence, discipline, and resilience is offered at Wicked Grounds Annex with a specific focus on kink, sex, poly, queer positivity, and consent culture. We will be exploring how this shifts our school culture and influences change in other communities, especially in the martial arts and kink. Open to all levels and abilities. Modifications and technique alternatives are an integral part of the system. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Come join us at our Booth, the Cafe, or the Annex this Folsom Sunday.
Friday September 20th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday September 21st
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
Come join us for Saturday Morning Cartoons from 11-3pm. Fetlife FacebookMeetup There will be cartoons, games, coloring, snacks and other littles to pal around with. This event is a safe space for altered headspaces around age play dynamics. We will be keeping things to the category of bright (light) age play, any dark play should be saved for other events. We aim to create an environment that is safe and welcoming to all age players.
Sunday September 22nd
At The Annex:
The HypnoSchool will be holding an event from 2-5pm. Stay tuned for more details.
Monday September 23rd
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Personal Rituals FetlifeFacebook You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday September 24th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Afterwards, the Self-Suspenders Munch Fetlife will be meeting in the back from 7:30-9:00pm for folks with previous rope experience looking to expand their suspension skills.
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community FetlifeFacebook, Meetup This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday September 25th
In The Cafe:
The Littles Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook If you are interested in or curious about Ageplay, this is the perfect munch for you! We are the Littles Munch, a local meetup for Ageplayers of all kinds to hang out, discuss, and color! So whether you are a Big, little, or still exploring, everyone is welcome to join the fun!
At The Annex:
The San Francisco Dominant/submissive Discussion Group will be meeting from 7:30-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This group is a monthly assembly for those with an interest in D/s and M/s relationships. We are an open and inclusive group that welcomes everyone who is interested in power exchange, control, protocol, service, and so forth, regardless of what their experience is or of which side of the dynamic slash they are on.
Thursday September 26th
In The Cafe:
The Ace Munch for Nonsexualized Kink will take place from 6:30-7:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Two commonly misunderstood concepts can make the kink scene intimidating to those who may not want sexualized kinky experiences, but still want to explore the joys of rope, bdsm, primal play, and more! Not every Asexual person is celibate and not all kink has to be sexualized! If you fall into either category, or are just generally ace-friendly, come relax with other like-minded folx in a sex positive, but not sex active, space! This monthly meetup is led by @AnxiousAceAya and their lovely allo-liason Azery.
Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.
At The Annex:
Join Ryan Psychokitty from 7-9pm for Improv Skills for Naughty Play. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Have you ever been ready in a scene, fully decked out in a sexy costume with your partner, but had trouble making up words to say? Then this workshop is perfect! After a short introduction we will explore improv exercises to build and develop skills that you can bring back to your own scenes. Character play builds upon words you can bring. These exercises start you on the road to find the right sexy words for your scene. Class participation is highly encouraged.Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday September 27th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 28th
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching a class from their Kink 101 series, Your First Folsom Street Fair from 1-3pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? Or perhaps you're an experienced kinkster planning for your first Folsom Street Fair tomorrow? Let Wicked Grounds help you make the most of it! We will give you an orientation on basic kink etiquette and culture, what to expect at the Fair, how to be a good citizen fairgoer, and how to explore the groups, organizations, vendors and play spaces that will help YOU explore your wild side. This Kink 101 class is also perfect if you're new to kink, new to the public scene, and want to learn more about local BDSM play and education to stay involved throughout the year. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Afterwards, join Alexandria for Leading and Following: Non Verbal Communication for D/s from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class has gotten rave reviews at Dark Odyssey Surrender, Northwest Leather, TGIF, the Citadel, and more! In this interactive class we borrow leading and following techniques from partnered dance and apply it to D/s. No dance understanding is required. No partner is required. Using simple concentration and dance techniques, we explore the internal mind/body connection for Dominants and submissives, non-verbal communication between the leader and follower, and how this works in 24/7, scenes, and more. Comfortable shoes are suggested because we will stand and walk for much of class. (Those with mobility issues easily accommodated.) Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Folsom Sunday September 29th
We will have our usual Booth out on the fairgrounds with kinky gear, books and more. The Cafe will be open 9am-9pm. This year we will also have the Annex open from 11am-7pm for a special overflow lounge, hang out space and getaway. We're opening the Wicked Grounds Annex for additional seating, and getting out the mats and toys for light play. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
Your $10-$20 suggested donation** supports the growth of the Wicked Grounds Annex educational & meeting space, and gets you all-day admission for:
Play stations at our St Andrews Cross and massage table
K9 mosh mats
Cozy cuddling spots
Overflow cafe seating (just bring up your food or drink from Wicked Grounds Cafe!)
Two clean bathrooms (!!!)
Space to dress up
Ice cold La Croix
Special door prizes (need not be present to win!)
All of your favorite friends!
You'll get a special wristband with your first admission that will give you in-and-out access throughout the day. Just need a break from the crowds? Use your wristband to drop by for a place to sit or a clean bathroom throughout the day. Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Food and drink ARE allowed in the Annex, but please respect this as a sober space. No alcohol or drugs, please, and thank you.
*Are you a Wicked Grounds VIP, Kitty level or higher? Feel free to flash your Patreon level on your phone for free admission.
**This door free applies only to the upstairs Annex! No door fee for the Cafe downstairs.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

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Friday September 13th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 14th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Offsite:
We will be vending at Unity! at the Catalyst. Come play, socialize and shop from 7pm-1am.
Sunday September 15th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
At The Annex:
Join RodeoKitten from 1-3pm for Hit Me Harder! A Bottoms Communication to Deepen a Scene. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class focuses on pain processing techniques and a new take on how to get the most out of safewords. The class then moves into giving bottoms the tools to play a larger role in the negotiation process. We will offer time for a group discussion as well as a short demo with the practical application of the material presented. While this class’s focal point is bottoms, we will be touching base on how tops can take utilize their self-aware bottoms to walk, run and push the edge of their pain threshold. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
From 4-6pm Jeff the Bear will be teaching Music to Set the Scene. FetlifeFacebook Meetup The right music can take your BDSM play to the next level! This class will teach you how to:
Discover music that best matches your favorite BDSM activities.
Enhance mood and energy without distracting.
Explore unusual genres from 70s porn soundtracks to spoken word erotica.
Have better sex!
The class will end with two simultaneous BDSM scenes demonstrating how the music can enhance any style of play.
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday September 16th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
The Kinky Writers Group Fetlife, Meetup will be getting together from 7-8:30pm to discuss the art of writing from a kinky perspective. Ever wanted to get together with other writers who are kinky? Want to write kinky erotica, paranormal kink, or just plain old regular literature by your kinky self with or without kinky scenes and people in it? Interested in discussing the ethics of kinky fantasies that are best left in the fantasy setting vs real life kink, with real kinky writers? This is the place!
From 7pm- 9pm The Non-Monogamous Munch for the Young and Young at Heart will be meeting. This is a gathering for chatting, socializing, and generally getting up to wacky hijinks at Wicked Grounds. Traditionally this munch has been for those under 40, but we recently nixed the age restriction, everyone is welcome! We encourage folks of any age to attend, with the realization that this group tends to draw a younger crowd.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Gender Fluidity. FetlifeFacebook Listen to personal storytelling about gender fluidity, and how one person can support significant change through authenticity and vulnerability. Get a sneak peek on how a Lava Lamp has become a key inspiration into a shoe design to reflect gender fluidity. Come ready to engage in interactive discussions on “what does if feel like to you to belong” either in work or in community, and “I can support a culture of belonging by…” Hear about allyship, opportunities to offer support to your gender fluid loved ones, and what activism means to the presenter.
Tuesday September 17th
In The Cafe:
From 11am-1pm the Kinky Entrepreneurs Munch Fetlife will be meeting. This munch is sponsored by the Bay Area Kinky Business Alliance and is a perfect fit for owners of kink-oriented businesses, as well as anyone who is active in the kink community and welcomes kinky clients. From 1pm-5pm the Entrepreneurs Munch Co-Working hours with BAKBA will take place.
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
The SoJ Mentoring Social will take place from 7:30-9:30pm. Fetlife FacebookThe SoJ Mentoring Social is for anyone who is interested in the idea of mentoring within kinky communities. It’s for people who are looking for a mentor or to become a mentor for someone else. It’s for people who are already in a mentoring relationship and looking for support in doing it well. It can even be a place for a kind of short term, collective mentoring -- we welcome your questions and/or concerns about your path in kink.
At The Annex:
Join Johnny Truant for Magick 101: Theatre Skills for Better Ritual from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook Are you the kind of person who can astral project like nobody’s business but can't project your damn voice across a room? Do you get all dressed up in your ceremonial robes and then just find yourself feeling silly? Do magical postures feel forced and awkward? Are you intimidated by arcane language, or do you struggle to connect emotionally with your evocations? This class is for you! Using theater games and exercises, well overcome our ceremonial stage fright. In the process we'll giggle a lot, make giant buffoons of ourselves, and learn not to care! By the end of this class, you should be better able to commit your energy to any ritual, whether you're performing it in private or in front of hundreds of people. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday September 18th
In The Cafe:
The D/s Social Hour will take place from 7-9pm. This is a casual, coffeehouse munch for connecting with other people interested in consensual authority and control. Come to build community among others who share your passion for consensual power exchange. Share ideas and inspiration with your peers. Find support and acceptance for your power relationship, or look for a partner with whom to create a relationship.
In The Annex:
The Crossdressing Club will be hosting the first Mx. SFCD 2019 Pageant. FetlifeFacebook Meetup There will be an interview, fashion and talent portion of the pageant. This group emphasizes FUN instead of "passing." None of us are perfect. No one here is the gender police. All gender is performative. Beards, body hair, flat chests, big bellies, baldness, mismatched clothes and flaws bless members of all genders and do not make you automatically un-feminine. Our members span a huge spectrum of gender expression. Come be yourself at our unique and supportive community munch and adventurous afterparty! The munch will adjourn to the Cat Club afterwards for Bondage-a-Go-Go: The Aliens Clap Back. Fetlife Facebook BAGG is a San Francisco classic! If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday September 19th
At The Annex:
Our Pack Night series with Mx. Davey Faye continues with Celebrating the Pack from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Time to roar out in primal glory! Whether you've made it to every other PACK NIGHT event or this is your first time syncing into the pack mind, we invite you to revel in your rawest form and find the flow that fits your instincts in this positively primal play space. Somatic exercises continue to inform your animalistic explorations, while group drills stimulate fantasy and allow you to feel out your freest form. Come ready to join in the jubilation, and inspired to continue your primal journey! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday September 20th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday September 21st
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
Come join us for Saturday Morning Cartoons from 11-3pm. Fetlife [Facebook][] Meetup There will be cartoons, games, coloring, snacks and other littles to pal around with. This event is a safe space for altered headspaces around age play dynamics. We will be keeping things to the category of bright (light) age play, any dark play should be saved for other events. We aim to create an environment that is safe and welcoming to all age players.
Sunday September 22nd
At The Annex:
The HypnoSchool will be holding an event from 2-5pm. Stay tuned for more details.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Saturday September 7th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from 2-4pm Fetlife A monthly meeting and discussion group for monogamous kinky folk to meet other monogamous perverts for food, drink, discussion, and community! Meet to mingle and munch in the back room.
At The Annex:
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. Stay tuned for this month’s topics. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Sunday September 8th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
At The Annex:
Mx. Davey Faye continues their series SPARC Sacred/Sadistic Play & Authentic Raw/Ritual Craft from 2-5pm. This Month’s topic is Blame the Woo: Energy & Science. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Let's cut to the quick: not everyone is "of the woo" but all humans rely on intuition, skills of observation, and this elegant energy-powered meat-sack we call our home - our bodies. The human body is proclaimed by philosophers, spiritual esoterics and scientists alike as a conduit, a system of electricity, a powerhouse of potential - get down to the nitty gritty of it, swallow anti-woo pride, and learn about, practice, even debate what it is to play with energy and examine those feels and coincidences that happen every so often as an innate part of the human experience. Learn what it means to be energetically sensitive, and coping skills for practitioners (and partners of) from all walks of life. Meditative and somatic techniques, channeling and intentive magicks, juicy warm up and soothing aftercare skills, and marginalized community awareness will be offered alongside lecture and group discussion. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday September 9th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet from 6-6:30pm.
New to kink or the community and looking for a good place to start? Come to the Society of Janus Newcomers Only Crash Course. Join us and fellow newcomers on the second Monday of the month. You can come as many times as you like while you still consider yourself new(ish) to the scene, usually up to one year. We'll answer questions and share experiences in an open respectful and casual setting.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Floggers and Whips. Fetlife Facebook Come and put into practice what you've learned in previous classes. This workshop session is not a class on these subjects, but a time to practice what you have already learned from other classes. We'll cover some limited basics of flogging and whips, and then open the room to kinky activities. Whether you want to top or bottom, there will be ways you can participate. Some supplies will be available for use for those who don't have any, but we do encourage attendees to bring their own. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday September 10th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
The Stampede Munch will be meeting from 8-9:30pm. Meet us at Wicked Grounds for a pet play munch! Buy some yummy pastries, sandwiches and milkshakes (in a pet bowl is an option too) and join new and old friends. We announce pet play events at every munch and try to get some play time too!
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community FetlifeFacebook, Meetup Civilian Krav Maga is designed to be simple to learn and practical to use. In this series of classes, we'll cover self defense techniques for dealing with common attacks you might encounter on the street or in domestic situations. Choke, be choked, and escape chokes! Punch, be punched, and block punches! Come prepared for a workout, but don't worry if you have physical limitations; krav is designed to work for the body you have. This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday September 11th
In The Cafe:
Top/bottom? How about both! The Switches Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. This is a munch for those who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything in between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch.
Cat Club is hosting Bondage A Go Go: Pants Off Dance Off. Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday September 12th
In The Cafe:
Rope Burn
Fetlife Facebook will be having their pre-jam meet up from 6-7pm before heading over to the Catalyst. This event is for male-identified, non binary and gender non conforming people interested in sharing rope tying knowledge and practicing together.
The Sex Magick Coffee Social will be meeting from 7-9pm. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.
Friday September 13th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 14th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Offsite:
We will be vending at Unity! at the Catalyst. Come play, socialize and shop from 7pm-1am.
Sunday September 15th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
At The Annex:
Join RodeoKitten from 1-3pm for Hit Me Harder! A Bottoms Communication to Deepen a Scene. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class focuses on pain processing techniques and a new take on how to get the most out of safewords. The class then moves into giving bottoms the tools to play a larger role in the negotiation process. We will offer time for a group discussion as well as a short demo with the practical application of the material presented. While this class’s focal point is bottoms, we will be touching base on how tops can take utilize their self-aware bottoms to walk, run and push the edge of their pain threshold. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
From 4-6pm Jeff the Bear will be teaching Music to Set the Scene. FetlifeFacebook Meetup The right music can take your BDSM play to the next level! This class will teach you how to:
Discover music that best matches your favorite BDSM activities.
Enhance mood and energy without distracting.
Explore unusual genres from 70s porn soundtracks to spoken word erotica.
Have better sex!
The class will end with two simultaneous BDSM scenes demonstrating how the music can enhance any style of play.
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Cafe will close at 6:30 on Friday August 30th and will be closed all day Sunday September 1st and Monday September 2nd

Sunday September 1st
At The Annex:
Warrior Workout! Fetlife,
Meetup Facebook. will be taking place in the Annex from 7-9pm. This event from Master Fox, founder of Progressive Martial Arts SF, is designed to build well-rounded, modern warriors by blending martial arts, fitness, and social justice. This workout event is open to all levels and abilities; modifications and technique adjustments are an integral part of Master Fox's system. Tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets.
Our Pack Night series with Mx. Davey Faye continues with Celebrating the Pack from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Time to roar out in primal glory! Whether you've made it to every other PACK NIGHT event or this is your first time syncing into the pack mind, we invite you to revel in your rawest form and find the flow that fits your instincts in this positively primal play space. Somatic exercises continue to inform your animalistic explorations, while group drills stimulate fantasy and allow you to feel out your freest form. Come ready to join in the jubilation, and inspired to continue your primal journey! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.

Tuesday September 3rd
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup Fetlife will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Godless Perverts Facebook will be taking over the back room tonight from 7-9pm.
At The Annex:
RodeoKitten will be teaching Speaking From the Bottom from 7-9pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Learn how to better communicate your needs within a power dynamic, and how to do so with respect, devotion, and service. Speaking from the Bottom will give you the space to empower your top with your own open and honest communication, deepening your relationship and dynamic.
Speaking from the bottom is not some perfect call and response, especially when everyone's dynamic is different. It is an intentional and consistently conscious choice. The class will cover a range of things that affect communication skills ranging from NVC to body language and negotiated dynamic structure. The curriculum is built for those in all ranges of power exchanges such as DD/lg, D/s, M/s and all the things in between! Please purchase discounted tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets. Tickets are also available at the door at a higher price.
Wednesday September 4th
In The Cafe:
Rope Bite Fetlife will be meeting from 7-9pm for folks of all skill levels who want to connect and practice rope.
Be sure to make it over to the Cat Club at 9:30 for Bondage A Go Go: Back to the 90s. Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
At The Annex:
Loud and Queer continues their A Sip of... series with Needle Play from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Come join other curious folk for a crash course in a new kink topic every month and/or to simply drink tea with the kinky community! This month's event will be a beginner-focused workshop on needle play with open dialogue between participants and instructors. All participation levels welcome! Please purchase tickets in advance through Eventbrite or at the door.
Thursday September 5th
In The Cafe:
The Black & Pink Letter Writing Munch, a local group who facilitates letter-writing to incarcerated LGBTQ+ folks in need of community and connection. They will be meeting from 6-8pm. They will have info on folks to send letters to, all the supplies, and ways to get more involved in the movement to abolish prisons. Letter writing is one incredible way we have to overcome the isolation intended by the PIC. This is an important way to show solidarity with our incarcerated LGBTQ+ and HIV+ community members! Please consider lending your support (and stamps!) to this valuable mission.
At The Annex:
The author of The Heart of Dominance and The Dominance Playbook, Anton Fulmen, will be teaching Core Skills for Deep D/s from 7-9pm. Fetlife FacebookMeetup What does it take to be a great dominant or a sterling submissive? Power exchange is often talked about as though it springs from magical or innate ability. You’re either born a natural dominant or you aren’t. You have a true slave heart or you don’t. But it isn’t magic. The ability to create and maintain hot, vibrant power dynamics is supported by skills that we can learn, and that we can keep getting better at. They’re mental and emotional skills: invisible skills, subtle but powerful in their effects. Improving at them can help us dismantle roadblocks that have been getting in the way of having satisfying power exchange, or make a good thing even better. In this interactive workshop, we’ll explore the core skills that can make us proficient or excellent at giving and receiving consensual power. Please purchase discounted tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets. Tickets are also available at the door at an increased price.
Friday September 6th
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), AFAB (assigned female at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday September 7th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from 2-4pm Fetlife A monthly meeting and discussion group for monogamous kinky folk to meet other monogamous perverts for food, drink, discussion, and community! Meet to mingle and munch in the back room.
At The Annex:
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. Stay tuned for this month’s topics. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Sunday September 8th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.
At The Annex:
Mx. Davey Faye continues their series SPARC Sacred/Sadistic Play & Authentic Raw/Ritual Craft from 2-5pm. This Month’s topic is Blame the Woo: Energy & Science. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Let's cut to the quick: not everyone is "of the woo" but all humans rely on intuition, skills of observation, and this elegant energy-powered meat-sack we call our home - our bodies. The human body is proclaimed by philosophers, spiritual esoterics and scientists alike as a conduit, a system of electricity, a powerhouse of potential - get down to the nitty gritty of it, swallow anti-woo pride, and learn about, practice, even debate what it is to play with energy and examine those feels and coincidences that happen every so often as an innate part of the human experience. Learn what it means to be energetically sensitive, and coping skills for practitioners (and partners of) from all walks of life. Meditative and somatic techniques, channeling and intentive magicks, juicy warm up and soothing aftercare skills, and marginalized community awareness will be offered alongside lecture and group discussion. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.