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• Saturday, January 5th: The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from 2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc. Godless Perverts has been rescheduled to tonight from 7-9pm. And today marks the first of our three-day “Staying in Fucking Business!” sale (Fetlife, Facebook), to mark the anniversary of our clopening. Check out the event listing for sales details!

• Sunday, January 6th: Interested in hosting a munch at the cafe? Already a proud munch leader? Our Munch Leaders Round-Up (Fetlife, Facebook) is for you. Learn the ins and outs of munch leadership in the scene, ask questions, and meet other munch leaders!

• Monday, January 7th: Foundations Office Hours will be meeting from 6-6:30pm. Interested in the My 1st Gangbang (Fetlife, Facebook) class over at SF Catalyst this evening? Stop by the office hours to meet a sponsor from Foundations, and get more information about their organization.

• Tuesday, January 8th: The Bay Area Rope Club (BARC) will be meeting from 6-7pm before heading over to SF Citadel for their weekly skillshare. Afterwards, Stampede will be meeting from 8-9:30 for those interested in pet play.

• Wednesday, January 9th: Top/bottom? How about both! The new Switches Munch, from 7-9pm, is for those of us who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything In between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch. Maybe you’re still deciding if both ends of the paddle are right for you? Shy? That’s ok too. Come by, have a coffee and just listen! Heading over to Bondage-A-Go-Go: Bowie BAGG (Fetlife, Facebook) next door at Cat Club? If you spend $10 or more on food/drink at the cafe, ask your barista for a stamped receipt to get a discount at the door!

• Thursday, January 10th: From 6-7pm, Rope Burn (Fetlife, Facebook) will be meeting in the back for their pre-jam meetup before heading over to Catalyst for their monthly skillshare. The back room is reserved from 6-8pm for a private event. Slightly later in the evening, the Sex Magic Coffee Socia, will be meeting in the front. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. Reclaiming, OTO, A.'.A.'., Chaos Magickians, F(a)eri(e) traditions, BLW, Wicca, and many other traditions include sexual magick and mysteries as part of the magickal practice. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.

• Saturday, January 12th: The Milk Munch will be meeting from 11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes. We will be vending at the Social of Janus Newcomers + Everyone's Party at SF Citadel in the evening. Additionally, we are proud to welcome Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion to the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.

• Sunday, January 13th: This afternoon, the Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends. In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

• Sunday, December 30th: Kinky Spirituality (Fetlife) will be meeting from 7-9PM for their monthly discussion on the varied intersections of kink/BDSM and spirituality.

• Monday, December 31st: Foundations Office Hours is canceled for this week.

• Tuesday, January 1st: HOLIDAY HOURS: 11AM-10PM. Kinky Coders, the munch for folks who do or are interested in computer programming, will be meeting at the cafe from 2-5pm. Godless Perverts will be canceled tonight, and is rescheduled for Saturday January 5th.

• Wednesday, January 2nd: Have questions about rope? Stop by from 6-10pm for the Wicked Bounds trunk show to check out our selection of premium bondage rope and get those questions answered! Meanwhile, Rope Bite will be meting from 7-9pm for folks of all skill levels who want to connect and practice rope. Heading over to Cat Club to Break Those Resolutions! (Fetlife, Facebook) at Bondage-a-Go-Go? Remember that if you spend $10+ on food and drink at the cafe, you get a discount at the door!

• Thursday, January 3rd: The Kinky Queer Revolution Podcast (Fetlife, Facebook) will be recording in the back room from 2-4pm. Our guest this week is Anton Fulmen, author of one of our recent bestsellers The Heart of Dominance. We will a wide range of D/s dynamics, how they differ, and the spirit they have in common.

• Friday, January 4th: Tonight at the cafe, the FtM Munch (Fetlife, Facebook) will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.

• Saturday, January 5th: The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from 2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc. Godless Perverts has been rescheduled to tonight for this month. And today marks the first of our three-day “Staying in Fucking Business!” sale (Fetlife, Facebook), to mark the anniversary of our clopening. Check out the event listing for sales details!

• Sunday, January 6th: Interested in hosting a munch at the cafe? Already a proud munch leader? Our Munch Leaders Round-Up (Fetlife, Facebook) is for you. Learn the ins and outs of munch leadership in the scene, ask questions, and meet other munch leaders!

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Please note our holiday hours; we're open all week but some of the days are shorter!

• Friday, December 21st: The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists (Fetlife, Facebook) will be meeting from 6-8PM this evening. The First Church of the Morningstar is a loose group of perfectly nice satanists, devil worshipers, demonolators, occultists, witches, and other walkers of the left hand path. They'll be meeting to socialize, scheme, discuss magic, read each other's tarot cards, swap occult books, and more! New and curious folks are welcome, please be respectful and keep an open mind. All participants are encouraged to bring books, tarot decks, artwork, original writing, zines, grimoires, and similar to show off and share with the group.

• Saturday, December 22nd: The Sober Kinksters Munch (Facebook) will be meeting from 6-8PM.

• Monday, December 24th: HOLIDAY HOURS 8AM-7PM. Foundation Office Hours (Facebook) will be meeting from 6-6:30 before heading over to

• Tuesday, December 25th: HOLIDAY HOURS 1-9PM. Please stop by if you want to avoid and/or escape Xmas, or otherwise need a safe space on this day. <3

• Wednesday, December 26th: Join the Little Scouts for their monthly Volunteer Meeting (Fetlife, Facebook), and stick around for the munch (Fetlife, Facebook) to make new friends, discuss ageplay, and color to your hearts content! Heading around the corner to Bondage-A-Go-Go: Takedown 2018 (Fetlife, Facebook)? Remember to get your $10+ receipt stamped by a barista, you'll get a discount at the door!

• Thursday, December 27th: Shy: The Unsocial Social (Fetlife, Facebook) will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.

• Sunday, December 30th: Kinky Spirituality (Fetlife) will be meeting from 7-9PM for their monthly discussion on the varied intersections of kink/BDSM and spirituality.

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Homo For the Holidays: Tips and Resources 

Many people in our community can’t go home for the holidays, or decide not to go. Some of us have been rejected by family because of our identities. Some of us don’t feel safe with family. And some of us can’t afford to travel or to participate in the festivities. If you’ve got local chosen family to love on you, or an engrossing job or other meaningful activity to fill you up, that’s awesome! But loneliness is a real threat to mental health and well-being, especially in queer and trans communities. Loneliness is not about being alone, it’s about feeling alone, which is possible even if you’re surrounded by people. Take care of yourself these next few weeks, and consider trying some of the following. 

Volunteer. Stepping outside of our own heads and giving to others can help us feel connected and valuable. Consider donating your time to a nonprofit whose mission you connect with. 

Lay off the booze. Drugs, alcohol, and tobacco (and fucking and food and gambling and shopping and...) can help us cope with stress. But there’s a tipping point when they can add to your problems instead of giving you a break. Watch your intake around the holidays, and try to mix in other coping strategies to lighten your emotional load.

Move around. I’m not gonna use the “e” word here, because it can scare some people away. But it’s worth noting that even low-impact movement such as walking has been proven to reduce stress and promote better sleep. Look for easy ways to add more movement into your day, such as getting off the bus a stop or two early, or taking the stairs instead of the elevator. If walking isn’t possible for you, get creative — I’ve worked up a sweat by cleaning or organizing my apartment. Maybe this is a good excuse to practice your flogging technique? 

Munches. Many routine activities in your local kink scene may become disrupted around the holidays. If you’re able to find a munch, it may be a good time to lean on your community for support.

Do something you love. Turn the holidays into an opportunity to connect more deeply with yourself. Feed that hobby you’ve been neglecting. Check out a museum, have a movie marathon of your favorite director’s work, or become a tourist in your own city and visit an unfamiliar neighborhood. 

Spending time with family of origin for the holidays?

Many of the above suggestions can be adapted to help keep you sane (especially steering clear of the eggnog). Here are some additional ideas:

Establish a routine. The holidays can disrupt the rhythm of your day, which can contribute to feeling shitty. While you may have limited control over how you spend your time if you’re traveling to see family, try to do basic daily tasks around the same time each day: waking up, taking medications, eating meals, and going to sleep.

Take space. When visiting family, you may not get much quality time to yourself unless you make an effort. Breaks from your loved ones can give you a chance to recharge your emotional battery — even if you’re really enjoying your time with your family, and especially if it’s more complicated. If setting boundaries around family is hard, try taking a long bath, volunteering to run to the grocery store to pick up the missing dinner ingredient, or retiring to bed an hour earlier than you plan to sleep.

Take a deep breath. Or two. Or many. Holidays with family may mean you have to hear some shocking things around the dinner table. While you may wish you didn’t know how your relatives *really* feel about subjects dear to your heart, it’s hard to unsee/unhear that shit, and even harder to know how to react in the moment. Whether you respond with fight or flight, remember to breathe. Breathing can help calm anxiety and ground you to better cope with the present. Breathe slowly, taking longer on the exhale. Try focusing on a soothing word or image. Practice breathing before your trip so it comes more easily when you need to use it. 

Give thanks. Use your visit home as an opportunity to acknowledge explicitly the good things in your life, especially the little things. Keeping a gratitude journal may help lift your spirits by consciously focusing your attention on the positive, which can be hard to do naturally when you’re visiting family and you are seemingly surrounded by examples of how fucked things are. Try writing down three things each day, and notice how you become more aware of what’s going right throughout your day. 

Queer and trans (especially trans) people are disproportionately affected by suicide. 

Here are some hotlines that can provide support if you’re feeling depressed or alone. 

Trans Lifeline. Staffed by trans people, for trans people. Available 7am-1am PST / 9am-3am CST / 10am-4am EST, and possibly during off hours. translifeline.org | 877-565-8860.

The Trevor Project. 24/7 support for queer youth. thetrevorproject.org | 1-866-488-7386

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress. suicidepreventionlifeline.org |1-800-273-8255
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For additional hotline resources serving our community, check out pflag.org/hotlines

• Friday, December 7th: Tonight at the cafe, the FtM Munch will be meeting from from 7-9pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar? Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
• Saturday, December 8th: We will be vending at the aforementioned San Francisco Fetish Flea hosted at the SF Citadel from 11am-5pm. Get your kinky holiday shopping out of the way, and explore work from local artists and businesses. And if you can't make the Flea, don't worry; we'll be vending at the Citadel's evening party: Luscious! The Milk Munch will be meeting from 11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch at the register to get 10% off of milkshakes.

• Sunday, December 9th: This afternoon, the Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends. In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.

• Monday, December 10th: Foundations SF Office Hours will be meeting from 6-6:30pm. Interested in attending the class on quick bedroom bondage at Catalyst later this evening? Stop by the office hours to learn more about Foundations, and get a class sponser. Afterwards, the SoJ Newcomers Only Crash Course will be meeting in the back from from 7-9pm. New to kink? New to the SF scene? Have questions? This is the group for you! The munch starts promptly at 7pm with presentation of local spaces and guidelines for interacting with the community, after which you'll have a chance to ask questions.

• Tuesday, December 11th: The Bay Area Rope Club (BARC) will be meeting in the back from 6-7 for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. This week, they're focusing on the many ways to build intimate partner connections with rope. Stampede will be meeting in the back from 8-9:30pm for all folks of the human animal persuasion. To celebrate their last munch of the year, stop by to help plan the Holiday Trot.

• Wednesday, December 12th: Top/bottom? How about both! The new Switches Munch, from 7-9pm, is for those of us who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything In between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch. Maybe you’re still deciding if both ends of the paddle are right for you? Shy? That’s ok too. Come by, have a coffee and just listen! Heading over to Bondage-A-Go-Go: In Service next door at Cat Club? If you spend $10 or more on food/drink at the cafe, ask your barista for a stamped receipt to get a discount at the door!

• Thursday, December 13th: The back room is reserved from 6-8pm for a private event. Slightly later in the evening, the Sex Magic Coffee Social, will be meeting in the front. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. Reclaiming, OTO, A.'.A.'., Chaos Magickians, F(a)eri(e) traditions, BLW, Wicca, and many other traditions include sexual magick and mysteries as part of the magickal practice. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.

• Friday, December 14th: We will be vending at Mystique, SF Citadel's premier party for dominant women and nonbinary folks!

• Saturday, December 15th: Crafty & Kinky will be meeting in the back from 4-6pm. Stop by this casual event to work on your projects, start something new, and talk about best DIY practices for all your kinky crafting adventures. We will be vending at Smack It at the ST Citadel this evening.

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.
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• Saturday, December 1st: From 2-4pm, the Monogamy Munch will be meeting to discuss monogamy in the Bay Area scene. What does monogamy mean to you? Does it allow you to play or do BDSM outside of your relationship? How do you define your monogamy? Sexual, sensual, or intimate? For people not already in a relationship, how do you learn about and explore BDSM? Discuss the ins and outs of monogamy with like-minded folks!
• Monday, December 3rd: Foundations Office Hours will be meeting from 6-6:30pm. The new Vegan Queers/Kinksters/Poly Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm to connect queers, kinksters, non-monogomous/RA/poly people, and weirdos who follow a vegan lifestyle. Are you into the leather scene but feeling conflicted about wearing animal skin? Then this munch is for you!

• Tuesday, December 4th: Kinky Coders will be meeting from 2-5pm for kinky folks interested in coding. Ask questions, meet other kinky techies, and co-work together in the back room! The Bay Area Rope Club (BARC) will convene from 6-7pm for their weekly mini-munch before heading over to SF Citadel for their rope jam.

• Wednesday, December 5th: Tonight is Rope Bondage Wednesday at Wicked Grounds! Join us for the Wicked Bounds Mini Trunk Show, hosted by the cafe from 6-10pm, and Rope Bite from 7-9pm. Interested in bondage rope, but not really sure what you’re into? Come flip through the books we stock and feel up the rope offerings from DeGiotto at the mini trunk show! No question is too new for our kink concierges. Rope Bite is a great event for new and intermediate rope lovers who want to learn new skills and expand their rope knowledge. The munch starts out with a demonstration, and transitions into a cafe-wide rope hangout! Planning on attending Bondage-a-Go-Go: The Pants Off Dance Off tonight at Cat Club? Spend $10 or more and get a stamped receipt from your barista to get discounted entry to the club.

• Thursday, December 6th: The Kinky Queer Revolution Podcast: Homo for the Holidays will be recording in the back room from 2-4pm. We'll be discussing navigating the winter holidays for queer, kinky, & poly folks! Questions are highly encourages, please tweet us @ wickedgrounds, or comment on our Facebook event.

• Friday, December 7th: Tonight at the cafe, the FtM Munch (Facebook link.) will be meeting from from 7-9pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar? Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome

• Saturday, December 8th: We will be vending at the San Francisco Fetish Flea hosted at the SF Citadel from 11am-5pm. Get your kinky holiday shopping out of the way, and explore work from local artists and businesses! The Milk Munch will be celebrating their third anniversary from 11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.

• Sunday, December 9th: This afternoon, the Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends. In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.
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Follow this link to view our Negotiation 101 (part of our Kink 101 series) on YouTube!

A huge thanks to all our patrons; we couldn't have made this class available without each and every one of you. 

Negotiating is a critical skill for building BDSM scenes, dynamics and relationships that work. But negotiating doesn't necessarily come naturally -- especially for those of us who are just entering the kink scene.

Join us for a Kink 101 session on how to negotiate for exactly what you want in BDSM scene and relationships. We'll talk about:

• Negotiation styles
  
• Pre-scene negotiations
  
• How to negotiate without killing the mood
  
• Checking in during and after the scene
  
• Negotiating and check-ins for ongoing BDSM dynamics

Drawing on tools from non-violent communication, neuro-linguistic programming, and even a bit of marketing and PR, we'll learn how to negotiate as partners toward a BDSM style that is hotter, more fun, and more powerful for all partners in a dynamic.

This series welcomes all genders, orientations, and dynamic styles. This workshop is designed for newcomers to BDSM, but is open to anyone who wants new tools to improve their BDSM communications.

Our presenter, Miriam Green, has been in the public kink scene for over one dozen years in the Austin, Houston and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds, San Francisco's first and only kink cafe & boutique.

• Sunday, November 11th: This afternoon, the Erotic Hypnosis Peersharewill be meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends. In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.
• Monday, November 12th: Foundations Office Hours will be meeting from 6-6:30pm for those interested in attending the class at Catalyst later this evening. New to the scene? Join us and fellow newcomers on the second Monday of the month for the SoJ Newcomers Crash Course (Facebook event). You can come as many times as you like while you still consider yourself new(ish) to the scene, usually up to one year. We'll answer questions and share experiences in an open respectful and casual setting.

• Tuesday, November 13th: The Bay Area Rope Club (BARC) will be meeting in the back from 6-7 for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. Stampede will be meeting in the back from TIME for those interested in pet play.

• Wednesday, November 14th: Top/bottom? How about both! Join us for the first ever Switches Munch from 7-9pm for those of us who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything In between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch. The discussion topic will be the biases switches are subject to in kink communities. Afterwards, over at Cat Club, Bondage-A-Go-Go: Naughty Nurse Night starts at 9:30 to cute what ails ya! If you spend $10 or more at the cafe, ask for a stamped receipt for a discount at the door.

• Thursday, November 15th: From 6-7pm, Rope Burn will be meeting in the back for their pre-jam meetup before heading over to Catalyst for their monthly skillshare. Rope Burn is a rope event specifically for men interested in tying or being tied by men, and all male-identified, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks are welcome!

• Friday, November 16th: The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists (from First Church of the Morningstar) will be meeting from 6-8pm. The church is a group of perfectly nice satanists, devil worshipers, demonolators, occultists, witches, and other walkers of the left hand path. They'll be meeting to socialize, scheme, discuss magic, read each other's tarot cards, swap occult books, and more! New and curious folks are welcome, we only ask that you be respectful and keep an open mind. All participants are encouraged to bring books, tarot decks, artwork, original writing, zines, grimoires, and similar to show off and share with the group.

• Saturday, November 17th: Crafty & Kinky will be meeting in the back from 4-6pm. Stop by this casual event to work on your projects, start something new, and talk about best DIY practices for all your kinky art ideas.

• Sunday, November 18th: The SF K9 Unit will be hosting Bring Your Human Animal Night in the back from 7-9pm for all manner of human animals and the handlers. Discuss the care and training of your pet, roughhouse on the mats, and don't forget to get your milkshake in a dog bowl!

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community!
Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee, tea, lemonade, etc., pre-paid by another friendly member of our community. (And if you've the funds, please consider adding a support drink to your purchase; you never know who might need it.)

• ​Monday, October 22nd: Foundations SF Office Hours will be meeting from 6-6:30pm. Stop by to speak with a Foundations representative, and get a sponsor before attending the class later this evening at Catalyst.

• Tuesday, October 23rd: Bay Area Rope Club (BARC) will be meeting from 6-7 for their weekly mini-munch before heading to the SF Citadel for their rope jam! Rope enthusiasts of all levels and interests are welcome. The Self-Suspenders Munch will be meeting at the SF Armory this month, please click through for more information!

• Wednesday, October 24th: Tonight, anyone interested in the community organization Little Scouts should stop by for the October Little Scouts Volunteer Meeting from 6-7pm, before joining us for the Littles Munch from 7-9pm! The San Francisco Littles Munch is a munch for ageplayers, and those who are curious. If you want to have a fun night playing games, coloring, and chatting with other littles, Bigs, AB/DLs, and kinky folk, this is the place for you! We are an all-inclusive group, so regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, or kink, you are invited to join us. Breaking out that embarrassing trench coat you wore in the 90s and heading next door to Bondage-A-Go-Go: Devil's Night at Cat Club? Remember that you can get a discount at the door with a purchase of food/drink over $10 at the cafe! Just ask your barista for a stamped receipt.

• Thursday, October 25th: Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30pm in the back. The Unsocial Social is a facilitated group discussion to support those who identify as shy, introverted or socially anxious, especially those that also identify as kinky and/or poly.

• Friday, October 26th: Join us from 7-9pm for the Kinky Roleplayers Munch. Do you like to dress up and pretend when you're in a scene? Perhaps as a naughty nurse? CEO? Librarian? Perhaps you delve into the realms of science fiction or fantasy? As a princess? Alien? Werewolf? Or even throw yourself into the world of one of your favorite books or movies? Whatever your pleasure, when it comes to roleplay, your imagination is all that matters!

• Saturday, October 27th: The Clean & Sober Munch will be meeting from 6-8pm in the back room.

• Sunday, October 28th: The Kinky Spirituality will be meeting from 7-9 for a scintillating discussion on the convergence of kink/BDSM and spirituality.

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community!
Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee, tea, lemonade, etc., pre-paid by another friendly member of our community. (And if you've the funds, please consider adding a support drink to your purchase; you never know who might need it!)
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• Friday October 12th: Tonight we will be CLOSING EARLY at 7pm for the Wicked Witch House Party at SF Citadel. The Citadel party starts at 8, please click through the links above for more information.
• Saturday, October 13th: The Milk Munch will be meeting from 11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes! In the evening, Milk & Cookies Art Show Closing Reception will be convening from 6-9pm to celebrate the lovely works of Mistress AliceinBondageland and SanFranciscoTeat that have graced our walls for the last few months. Join us for milk and cookies, one last look at the collages from both these talented community artists, and “breasts prints,” an interactive art experience.
• Sunday, October 14th: This afternoon, the Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends. In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.
• Monday, October 15th: Foundations Office Hours will be meeting from 6-6:30pm for those interested in attending the Setting the Atmosphere of a Sceneclass at Catalyst later this evening. Afterwards, the Non-Monogamy Munch For the Young & Young at Heart will be meeting from 7-9pm for anyone looking to hangout with like-minded non-monogamous folks. This is a very casual event, feel free to drop by and make new friends!
• Tuesday, October 16th: Kinky Entrepreneur's Munch: Cleaning Up Our Systems will be meeting from 11am-1pm for a presentation and discussion about organization for small business from a kinky perspective. The Bay Area Rope Club (BARC) will be meeting in the back from 6-7 for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. This week, BARC will be focusing on rope for newbies, so if you've been thinking about attending, this will be the perfect week to do it.
• Wednesday, October 17th: It's Mistress Alice's birthday this week for her legendary Crossdressing Munch! Crossdressers, sissies, maids, cosplayers, trans and gender bending folks of all kinds, with the focus being on the feminine and ultra-feminine, are invited to join us in celebration from 8-10pm. Dominants and supporters who enjoy sissy energy also invited! This munch will be a clothing swap, so bring your unloved, unwanted, or ill-fitting femme/feminine garments and see if you can fall in love with something new. Afterwards, the munch (and many others!) will adjourn to Bondage-A-Go-Go: Ladies' Night next door at Cat Club. If you spend $10 or more on food/drink at the cafe, ask your barista for a stamped receipt to get a discount at the door!
• Thursday, October 18th: From 6-7pm, Rope Burn will be meeting in the back for their pre-jam meetup before heading over to Catalyst for their monthly skillshare. The fine folks of SF TNG will be joining us again for their 18+, alcohol-free, Caffeine Social in the back room from 7-9:30pm. This is a great event for folks under 40 to meet other kinksters, make friends and connections, and learn more about the scene! SF TNG ask that all new attendees review the happy hour guidelines.
• Saturday, October 20th: Crafty & Kinky will be meeting in the back from 4-6pm. Stop by this casual event to work on your projects, start something new, and talk about best DIY practices for all your kinky needs! Tonight, we will be vending at Taboo at the SF Citadel. The perfect event to try out the new Tantus titanium canes, or the locally made Gray Garage aluminum canes; the toys that are too hardcore to be on display at the cafe!
• Sunday, October 21st: The SF K9 Unit will be hosting Bring Your Human Animal Night in the back from 7-9pm for all manner of human animals and the handlers. Discuss the care and training of your pet, roughhouse on the mats, and don't forget to get your milkshake in a dog bowl!

All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community!
Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee, tea, lemonade, etc., pre-paid by another friendly member of our community. (And if you've the funds, please consider adding a support drink to your purchase; you never know who might need it!)
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