Friday October 4th
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch Fetlife,
Facebook will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday October 5th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munchwill be meeting from
2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching one of their Kink 101 classes, Welcome to Wicked Grounds from 12-2pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? This Kink 101 class gives you the basics on the San Francisco BDSM scene, and is perfect whether you're new to kink, new to the public scene, want to learn more about local BDSM play and education, even just want to know what the heck happens at a kink cafe. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene and San Francisco's very own kink café. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you're planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month from 3-5:30pm. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. This month’s topics are flogging and rope. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Sunday October 6th
At the Annex:
Thinking all the time about that perfect class you'd like to teach?
Hearing from your friends that there's a hunger for what you know?
But you're not sure where to start? Come to Mir’s Kink Class Incubator from 12-2:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
In this class, you'll learn what you need to get a basic start teaching in kink, polyamory, fetish, magick -- or any other peer-taught subject. Of course, we'd be delighted if you plan to teach at the Annex (and we'll refund your class fee if you do!), but our goal is to create great teachers who can teach anywhere.
In this workshop, you will learn to:
Refine and sharpen your core message
Figure how what you really want to say -- what only you can
Differentiate your class based on your experience and knowledge
Market your class in ways that really work
Include your students, and learn as you teach
Give a class that makes a difference
Engage your audience and build your fans
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Warrior Workout with Fox will be from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupDesigned to build well-rounded modern warriors, this MMA seminar blends the best of martial arts and fitness with social justice. Warmup workout, core technique training, special topics and guest instructors, HIIT workout, cool down and closing discussion. Emphasis on functional movement and corrective exercise because health and injury prevention is also self-defense. We develop powerful, resourceful, ethical, and compassionate warriors and leaders. This path to personal development builds confidence, discipline, and resilience is offered at Wicked Grounds Annex with a specific focus on kink, sex, poly, queer positivity, and consent culture. We will be exploring how this shifts our school culture and influences change in other communities, especially in the martial arts and kink. Open to all levels and abilities. Modifications and technique alternatives are an integral part of the system. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday October 7th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is The Language of Cloth and Leather. Fetlife Facebook Have you ever felt that you were into something so strange that you would be alone even in the kink community? Have you ever thought that it can be impossible to meet others that have the same interests that you have? There is a "secret language" that some people in the kink community use to socially signal things about themselves and/or their interests without saying a word. Cadet Alex B. will help you become more aware of this semi-secret language and give tips on how you can use it to meet others with interests that you may not otherwise know that they have. Go and meet those kinky people you have been looking for!You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday October 8th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
The Stampede Munch will be meeting from 8-9:30pm. Meet us at Wicked Grounds for a pet play munch! Buy some yummy pastries, sandwiches and milkshakes (in a pet bowl is an option too) and join new and old friends. We announce pet play events at every munch and try to get some play time too!
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community from 7:30-9pm. Fetlife Facebook, Meetup Civilian Krav Maga is designed to be simple to learn and practical to use. In this series of classes, we'll cover self defense techniques for dealing with common attacks you might encounter on the street or in domestic situations. Choke, be choked, and escape chokes! Punch, be punched, and block punches! Come prepared for a workout, but don't worry if you have physical limitations; krav is designed to work for the body you have. This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday October 9th
In The Cafe:
Top/bottom? How about both! The Switches Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. This is a munch for those who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything in between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch.
Bondage A Go Go will start at 9:30pm with Bloodsucker’s Ball Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday October 10th
In The Cafe:
Rope Burn
Fetlife Facebook will be having their pre-jam meet up from 6-7pm before heading over to the Catalyst. This event is for male-identified, non binary and gender non conforming people interested in sharing rope tying knowledge and practicing together.
The Sex Magick Coffee Social will be meeting from 7-9pm. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.
At The Annex:
RodeoKitten will be teaching a class from their bottom-centric series from 7-9pm called Cultivating Your Why. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class is an overview of the components that determine how we form decisions/conclusions and their place in growth-oriented relationships. With the help of the Myers-Briggs personality test, let’s work together to streamline your kink fulfillment. Thru the aligning and understanding of core values with different learning modalities, we can learn to be conscious of how our perceptions of an event or task can change depending on where we chose to take it. The course is a mix of lecture, discussion, and a short demo.Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday October 11th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday October 12th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Sunday October 13th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
At The Annex:
Join Fox and Faye for Seat of Power: Sub Skills and Switch Empowerment from 3-6pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Switch it up with us! No matter what side of the slash you are on, there are ALWAYS skills to be learned, re-learned, un-learned, expanded, honed and challenged along the journey of conscious BDSM play. Discussion topics will include consent practices, communication and negotiation, and a brief overview of the psychology of different approaches to power exchange (including top/bottom, D/s, M/s, service, pet play, big/little, and mentorship). Hands-on practice with pain management and breath exercises, meditation, and position training is intended for all players to develop self-awareness, self-discipline, and unearth their warrior heart - you can harness these skills to bring back into the bedroom, dungeon, as well as food for your own personal path of growth. Class is dedicated to a focus on accessibility for all bodies as well as the mind and spirit and reflects on therapeutic benefits of BDSM as well as concerns for long term self-care and corrective exercises. The impact of trauma, disability, and socialization of privileged and marginalized communities is examined while fostering mechanisms of compassion for self, and empathy for others. Explore your curiosities and question internal assumptions while using somatic techniques, theatre drills and primal expression as access points for the seasoned and uncertain switch alike. This class also introduces concepts surrounding self-collaring, service switching, and nonbinary relationship structures. Leave with new and revived grounding and empowerment skills, release from socially engendered shame, and intuitive insight to human experiences of both vulnerabilities, and victory. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Thursday September 26th
In The Cafe:
The Ace Munch for Nonsexualized Kink will take place from 6:30-7:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Two commonly misunderstood concepts can make the kink scene intimidating to those who may not want sexualized kinky experiences, but still want to explore the joys of rope, bdsm, primal play, and more! Not every Asexual person is celibate and not all kink has to be sexualized! If you fall into either category, or are just generally ace-friendly, come relax with other like-minded folx in a sex positive, but not sex active, space! This monthly meetup is led by @AnxiousAceAya and their lovely allo-liason Azery.
Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.
At The Annex:
Join Ryan Psychokitty from 7-9pm for Improv Skills for Naughty Play. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Have you ever been ready in a scene, fully decked out in a sexy costume with your partner, but had trouble making up words to say? Then this workshop is perfect! After a short introduction we will explore improv exercises to build and develop skills that you can bring back to your own scenes. Character play builds upon words you can bring. These exercises start you on the road to find the right sexy words for your scene. Class participation is highly encouraged.Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday September 27th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 28th
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching a class from their Kink 101 series, Your First Folsom Street Fair from 1-3pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? Or perhaps you're an experienced kinkster planning for your first Folsom Street Fair tomorrow? Let Wicked Grounds help you make the most of it! We will give you an orientation on basic kink etiquette and culture, what to expect at the Fair, how to be a good citizen fairgoer, and how to explore the groups, organizations, vendors and play spaces that will help YOU explore your wild side. This Kink 101 class is also perfect if you're new to kink, new to the public scene, and want to learn more about local BDSM play and education to stay involved throughout the year. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Afterwards, join Alexandria for Leading and Following: Non Verbal Communication for D/s from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class has gotten rave reviews at Dark Odyssey Surrender, Northwest Leather, TGIF, the Citadel, and more! In this interactive class we borrow leading and following techniques from partnered dance and apply it to D/s. No dance understanding is required. No partner is required. Using simple concentration and dance techniques, we explore the internal mind/body connection for Dominants and submissives, non-verbal communication between the leader and follower, and how this works in 24/7, scenes, and more. Comfortable shoes are suggested because we will stand and walk for much of class. (Those with mobility issues easily accommodated.) Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Folsom Sunday September 29th
We will have our usual Booth out on the fairgrounds with kinky gear, books and more. The Cafe will be open 9am-9pm. This year we will also have the Annex open from 11am-7pm for a special overflow lounge, hang out space and getaway. We're opening the Wicked Grounds Annex for additional seating, and getting out the mats and toys for light play. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
Your $10-$20 suggested donation** supports the growth of the Wicked Grounds Annex educational & meeting space, and gets you all-day admission for:
Play stations at our St Andrews Cross and massage table
K9 mosh mats
Cozy cuddling spots
Overflow cafe seating (just bring up your food or drink from Wicked Grounds Cafe!)
Two clean bathrooms (!!!)
Space to dress up
Ice cold La Croix
Special door prizes (need not be present to win!)
All of your favorite friends!
You'll get a special wristband with your first admission that will give you in-and-out access throughout the day. Just need a break from the crowds? Use your wristband to drop by for a place to sit or a clean bathroom throughout the day. Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Food and drink ARE allowed in the Annex, but please respect this as a sober space. No alcohol or drugs, please, and thank you.
*Are you a Wicked Grounds VIP, Kitty level or higher? Feel free to flash your Patreon level on your phone for free admission.
**This door free applies only to the upstairs Annex! No door fee for the Cafe downstairs.
Monday September 30th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Erotic and BDSM Open Mic Fetlife Facebook Erotic and kink writers and storytellers, this Foundations class is by and for YOU! Join us for this evening of community-building. What better way to get to know one another than to share our sex positive, naughty poetry and stories? Please come prepared with writing or storytelling of no longer than 10 minutes. Please note that the intention is to share things that we have written or to tell our own stories. If there is time at the end of class, we will open it up for you to share excerpts from some of your favorite erotic authors. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday October 1st
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
From 7-9pm the Godless Perverts Social Club will be meeting.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching a class from their Kink 101 series, Getting Hands on with Impact Play. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Curious to explore impact play in satisfying consensual scenes? Already playing with impact, and want to explore additional tools and techniques?
Join us for this fun, hands-on workshop!
We will cover:
Negotiation for impact play
Basic anatomy -- where to hit, and how!
Using rhythm and cadence
Building headspace in a scene
Intro to play styles - spanking, paddling, caning, flogging & rough body play
Warm-up and sensual play
Intense cathartic play
Discipline play
Aftercare & beyond
And much more!
You will walk away from this class with the basic skills you need to negotiate for, play with, and deepen your bonds after impact play -- without any tools! You'll also learn how to select the right tools and techniques for styles of play ranging from sensual to sadistic, and how to explore new kinds of play without spending a fortune on new toys.
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday October 2nd
In The Cafe:
Rope Bite is from 7-9pm. Fetlife Whether you've been tying up your friends your whole life or have just picked up your first piece of rope, everyone is welcome to join in for this light social event, held the first Wednesday of every month. Drink a cup of coffee or tea, meet new friends, and learn about how to tie or be tied. Bring rope if you've got it, but we have plenty you can borrow. This is a pansexual, all-inclusive gathering for those over 18 (age requirement for the café).
Thursday October 3rd
In The Cafe:
The Black and Pink Letter Writing Munch occurs from 6-8pm. Facebook Every month on the 1st Thursday, we’ll have birthday cards to our trans, queer, and HIV+ members in nearby California prisons AND penpal info, so join us for whatever your pleasure is (and invite your friends)! We will have info on folks to send letters to, all the supplies, and ways to get more involved in the movement to abolish prisons. Letter Writing is one incredible way we have to overcome the isolation intended by the PIC. This is an important way to show solidarity and show community support with our incarcerated LGBTQ+ and HIV+ community members!
At The Annex:
The Society of Janus will be holding a workshop from 8-10pm on Fem Men in Body Talk. Fetlife Meetup Coaching for men on stepping into your feminine side. We’ll explore movements such as sitting, standing, walking, shaking hands, and hugging through one-on-one coaching to help you find your unique body language amidst social norms. My aim is to expand our love for our bodies and broaden our range of body language, sensuality, and erotic display. Bring what you have in flats, heels, ... and skirts! Oh, and a yoga mat. Please purchase tickets in advance here or at the door.
Friday October 4th
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch Fetlife,
Facebook will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday October 5th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from
2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc.
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching one of their Kink 101 classes, Welcome to Wicked Grounds from 12-2pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? This Kink 101 class gives you the basics on the San Francisco BDSM scene, and is perfect whether you're new to kink, new to the public scene, want to learn more about local BDSM play and education, even just want to know what the heck happens at a kink cafe. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene and San Francisco's very own kink café. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you're planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday October 6th
At the Annex:
Thinking all the time about that perfect class you'd like to teach?
Hearing from your friends that there's a hunger for what you know?
But you're not sure where to start? Come to Mir’s Kink Class Incubator from 12-2:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
In this class, you'll learn what you need to get a basic start teaching in kink, polyamory, fetish, magick -- or any other peer-taught subject. Of course, we'd be delighted if you plan to teach at the Annex (and we'll refund your class fee if you do!), but our goal is to create great teachers who can teach anywhere.
In this workshop, you will learn to:
Refine and sharpen your core message
Figure how what you really want to say -- what only you can
Differentiate your class based on your experience and knowledge
Market your class in ways that really work
Include your students, and learn as you teach
Give a class that makes a difference
Engage your audience and build your fans
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Warrior Workout with Fox will be from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook MeetupDesigned to build well-rounded modern warriors, this MMA seminar blends the best of martial arts and fitness with social justice. Warmup workout, core technique training, special topics and guest instructors, HIIT workout, cool down and closing discussion. Emphasis on functional movement and corrective exercise because health and injury prevention is also self-defense. We develop powerful, resourceful, ethical, and compassionate warriors and leaders. This path to personal development builds confidence, discipline, and resilience is offered at Wicked Grounds Annex with a specific focus on kink, sex, poly, queer positivity, and consent culture. We will be exploring how this shifts our school culture and influences change in other communities, especially in the martial arts and kink. Open to all levels and abilities. Modifications and technique alternatives are an integral part of the system. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Come join us at our Booth, the Cafe, or the Annex this Folsom Sunday.
Friday September 20th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday September 21st
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
Come join us for Saturday Morning Cartoons from 11-3pm. Fetlife FacebookMeetup There will be cartoons, games, coloring, snacks and other littles to pal around with. This event is a safe space for altered headspaces around age play dynamics. We will be keeping things to the category of bright (light) age play, any dark play should be saved for other events. We aim to create an environment that is safe and welcoming to all age players.
Sunday September 22nd
At The Annex:
The HypnoSchool will be holding an event from 2-5pm. Stay tuned for more details.
Monday September 23rd
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Personal Rituals FetlifeFacebook You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday September 24th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Afterwards, the Self-Suspenders Munch Fetlife will be meeting in the back from 7:30-9:00pm for folks with previous rope experience looking to expand their suspension skills.
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community FetlifeFacebook, Meetup This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday September 25th
In The Cafe:
The Littles Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook If you are interested in or curious about Ageplay, this is the perfect munch for you! We are the Littles Munch, a local meetup for Ageplayers of all kinds to hang out, discuss, and color! So whether you are a Big, little, or still exploring, everyone is welcome to join the fun!
At The Annex:
The San Francisco Dominant/submissive Discussion Group will be meeting from 7:30-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This group is a monthly assembly for those with an interest in D/s and M/s relationships. We are an open and inclusive group that welcomes everyone who is interested in power exchange, control, protocol, service, and so forth, regardless of what their experience is or of which side of the dynamic slash they are on.
Thursday September 26th
In The Cafe:
The Ace Munch for Nonsexualized Kink will take place from 6:30-7:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Two commonly misunderstood concepts can make the kink scene intimidating to those who may not want sexualized kinky experiences, but still want to explore the joys of rope, bdsm, primal play, and more! Not every Asexual person is celibate and not all kink has to be sexualized! If you fall into either category, or are just generally ace-friendly, come relax with other like-minded folx in a sex positive, but not sex active, space! This monthly meetup is led by @AnxiousAceAya and their lovely allo-liason Azery.
Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.
At The Annex:
Join Ryan Psychokitty from 7-9pm for Improv Skills for Naughty Play. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Have you ever been ready in a scene, fully decked out in a sexy costume with your partner, but had trouble making up words to say? Then this workshop is perfect! After a short introduction we will explore improv exercises to build and develop skills that you can bring back to your own scenes. Character play builds upon words you can bring. These exercises start you on the road to find the right sexy words for your scene. Class participation is highly encouraged.Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday September 27th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 28th
At The Annex:
Mir will be teaching a class from their Kink 101 series, Your First Folsom Street Fair from 1-3pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup New to the local public scene? Or perhaps you're an experienced kinkster planning for your first Folsom Street Fair tomorrow? Let Wicked Grounds help you make the most of it! We will give you an orientation on basic kink etiquette and culture, what to expect at the Fair, how to be a good citizen fairgoer, and how to explore the groups, organizations, vendors and play spaces that will help YOU explore your wild side. This Kink 101 class is also perfect if you're new to kink, new to the public scene, and want to learn more about local BDSM play and education to stay involved throughout the year. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Afterwards, join Alexandria for Leading and Following: Non Verbal Communication for D/s from 3:30-5:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class has gotten rave reviews at Dark Odyssey Surrender, Northwest Leather, TGIF, the Citadel, and more! In this interactive class we borrow leading and following techniques from partnered dance and apply it to D/s. No dance understanding is required. No partner is required. Using simple concentration and dance techniques, we explore the internal mind/body connection for Dominants and submissives, non-verbal communication between the leader and follower, and how this works in 24/7, scenes, and more. Comfortable shoes are suggested because we will stand and walk for much of class. (Those with mobility issues easily accommodated.) Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Folsom Sunday September 29th
We will have our usual Booth out on the fairgrounds with kinky gear, books and more. The Cafe will be open 9am-9pm. This year we will also have the Annex open from 11am-7pm for a special overflow lounge, hang out space and getaway. We're opening the Wicked Grounds Annex for additional seating, and getting out the mats and toys for light play. Fetlife Facebook Meetup
Your $10-$20 suggested donation** supports the growth of the Wicked Grounds Annex educational & meeting space, and gets you all-day admission for:
Play stations at our St Andrews Cross and massage table
K9 mosh mats
Cozy cuddling spots
Overflow cafe seating (just bring up your food or drink from Wicked Grounds Cafe!)
Two clean bathrooms (!!!)
Space to dress up
Ice cold La Croix
Special door prizes (need not be present to win!)
All of your favorite friends!
You'll get a special wristband with your first admission that will give you in-and-out access throughout the day. Just need a break from the crowds? Use your wristband to drop by for a place to sit or a clean bathroom throughout the day. Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Food and drink ARE allowed in the Annex, but please respect this as a sober space. No alcohol or drugs, please, and thank you.
*Are you a Wicked Grounds VIP, Kitty level or higher? Feel free to flash your Patreon level on your phone for free admission.
**This door free applies only to the upstairs Annex! No door fee for the Cafe downstairs.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

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Friday September 13th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 14th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Offsite:
We will be vending at Unity! at the Catalyst. Come play, socialize and shop from 7pm-1am.
Sunday September 15th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
At The Annex:
Join RodeoKitten from 1-3pm for Hit Me Harder! A Bottoms Communication to Deepen a Scene. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class focuses on pain processing techniques and a new take on how to get the most out of safewords. The class then moves into giving bottoms the tools to play a larger role in the negotiation process. We will offer time for a group discussion as well as a short demo with the practical application of the material presented. While this class’s focal point is bottoms, we will be touching base on how tops can take utilize their self-aware bottoms to walk, run and push the edge of their pain threshold. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
From 4-6pm Jeff the Bear will be teaching Music to Set the Scene. FetlifeFacebook Meetup The right music can take your BDSM play to the next level! This class will teach you how to:
Discover music that best matches your favorite BDSM activities.
Enhance mood and energy without distracting.
Explore unusual genres from 70s porn soundtracks to spoken word erotica.
Have better sex!
The class will end with two simultaneous BDSM scenes demonstrating how the music can enhance any style of play.
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday September 16th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
The Kinky Writers Group Fetlife, Meetup will be getting together from 7-8:30pm to discuss the art of writing from a kinky perspective. Ever wanted to get together with other writers who are kinky? Want to write kinky erotica, paranormal kink, or just plain old regular literature by your kinky self with or without kinky scenes and people in it? Interested in discussing the ethics of kinky fantasies that are best left in the fantasy setting vs real life kink, with real kinky writers? This is the place!
From 7pm- 9pm The Non-Monogamous Munch for the Young and Young at Heart will be meeting. This is a gathering for chatting, socializing, and generally getting up to wacky hijinks at Wicked Grounds. Traditionally this munch has been for those under 40, but we recently nixed the age restriction, everyone is welcome! We encourage folks of any age to attend, with the realization that this group tends to draw a younger crowd.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Gender Fluidity. FetlifeFacebook Listen to personal storytelling about gender fluidity, and how one person can support significant change through authenticity and vulnerability. Get a sneak peek on how a Lava Lamp has become a key inspiration into a shoe design to reflect gender fluidity. Come ready to engage in interactive discussions on “what does if feel like to you to belong” either in work or in community, and “I can support a culture of belonging by…” Hear about allyship, opportunities to offer support to your gender fluid loved ones, and what activism means to the presenter.
Tuesday September 17th
In The Cafe:
From 11am-1pm the Kinky Entrepreneurs Munch Fetlife will be meeting. This munch is sponsored by the Bay Area Kinky Business Alliance and is a perfect fit for owners of kink-oriented businesses, as well as anyone who is active in the kink community and welcomes kinky clients. From 1pm-5pm the Entrepreneurs Munch Co-Working hours with BAKBA will take place.
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
The SoJ Mentoring Social will take place from 7:30-9:30pm. Fetlife FacebookThe SoJ Mentoring Social is for anyone who is interested in the idea of mentoring within kinky communities. It’s for people who are looking for a mentor or to become a mentor for someone else. It’s for people who are already in a mentoring relationship and looking for support in doing it well. It can even be a place for a kind of short term, collective mentoring -- we welcome your questions and/or concerns about your path in kink.
At The Annex:
Join Johnny Truant for Magick 101: Theatre Skills for Better Ritual from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook Are you the kind of person who can astral project like nobody’s business but can't project your damn voice across a room? Do you get all dressed up in your ceremonial robes and then just find yourself feeling silly? Do magical postures feel forced and awkward? Are you intimidated by arcane language, or do you struggle to connect emotionally with your evocations? This class is for you! Using theater games and exercises, well overcome our ceremonial stage fright. In the process we'll giggle a lot, make giant buffoons of ourselves, and learn not to care! By the end of this class, you should be better able to commit your energy to any ritual, whether you're performing it in private or in front of hundreds of people. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday September 18th
In The Cafe:
The D/s Social Hour will take place from 7-9pm. This is a casual, coffeehouse munch for connecting with other people interested in consensual authority and control. Come to build community among others who share your passion for consensual power exchange. Share ideas and inspiration with your peers. Find support and acceptance for your power relationship, or look for a partner with whom to create a relationship.
In The Annex:
The Crossdressing Club will be hosting the first Mx. SFCD 2019 Pageant. FetlifeFacebook Meetup There will be an interview, fashion and talent portion of the pageant. This group emphasizes FUN instead of "passing." None of us are perfect. No one here is the gender police. All gender is performative. Beards, body hair, flat chests, big bellies, baldness, mismatched clothes and flaws bless members of all genders and do not make you automatically un-feminine. Our members span a huge spectrum of gender expression. Come be yourself at our unique and supportive community munch and adventurous afterparty! The munch will adjourn to the Cat Club afterwards for Bondage-a-Go-Go: The Aliens Clap Back. Fetlife Facebook BAGG is a San Francisco classic! If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday September 19th
At The Annex:
Our Pack Night series with Mx. Davey Faye continues with Celebrating the Pack from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Time to roar out in primal glory! Whether you've made it to every other PACK NIGHT event or this is your first time syncing into the pack mind, we invite you to revel in your rawest form and find the flow that fits your instincts in this positively primal play space. Somatic exercises continue to inform your animalistic explorations, while group drills stimulate fantasy and allow you to feel out your freest form. Come ready to join in the jubilation, and inspired to continue your primal journey! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday September 20th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday September 21st
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
Come join us for Saturday Morning Cartoons from 11-3pm. Fetlife [Facebook][] Meetup There will be cartoons, games, coloring, snacks and other littles to pal around with. This event is a safe space for altered headspaces around age play dynamics. We will be keeping things to the category of bright (light) age play, any dark play should be saved for other events. We aim to create an environment that is safe and welcoming to all age players.
Sunday September 22nd
At The Annex:
The HypnoSchool will be holding an event from 2-5pm. Stay tuned for more details.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Saturday September 7th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from 2-4pm Fetlife A monthly meeting and discussion group for monogamous kinky folk to meet other monogamous perverts for food, drink, discussion, and community! Meet to mingle and munch in the back room.
At The Annex:
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. Stay tuned for this month’s topics. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Sunday September 8th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
At The Annex:
Mx. Davey Faye continues their series SPARC Sacred/Sadistic Play & Authentic Raw/Ritual Craft from 2-5pm. This Month’s topic is Blame the Woo: Energy & Science. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Let's cut to the quick: not everyone is "of the woo" but all humans rely on intuition, skills of observation, and this elegant energy-powered meat-sack we call our home - our bodies. The human body is proclaimed by philosophers, spiritual esoterics and scientists alike as a conduit, a system of electricity, a powerhouse of potential - get down to the nitty gritty of it, swallow anti-woo pride, and learn about, practice, even debate what it is to play with energy and examine those feels and coincidences that happen every so often as an innate part of the human experience. Learn what it means to be energetically sensitive, and coping skills for practitioners (and partners of) from all walks of life. Meditative and somatic techniques, channeling and intentive magicks, juicy warm up and soothing aftercare skills, and marginalized community awareness will be offered alongside lecture and group discussion. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday September 9th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet from 6-6:30pm.
New to kink or the community and looking for a good place to start? Come to the Society of Janus Newcomers Only Crash Course. Join us and fellow newcomers on the second Monday of the month. You can come as many times as you like while you still consider yourself new(ish) to the scene, usually up to one year. We'll answer questions and share experiences in an open respectful and casual setting.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Floggers and Whips. Fetlife Facebook Come and put into practice what you've learned in previous classes. This workshop session is not a class on these subjects, but a time to practice what you have already learned from other classes. We'll cover some limited basics of flogging and whips, and then open the room to kinky activities. Whether you want to top or bottom, there will be ways you can participate. Some supplies will be available for use for those who don't have any, but we do encourage attendees to bring their own. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday September 10th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
The Stampede Munch will be meeting from 8-9:30pm. Meet us at Wicked Grounds for a pet play munch! Buy some yummy pastries, sandwiches and milkshakes (in a pet bowl is an option too) and join new and old friends. We announce pet play events at every munch and try to get some play time too!
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community FetlifeFacebook, Meetup Civilian Krav Maga is designed to be simple to learn and practical to use. In this series of classes, we'll cover self defense techniques for dealing with common attacks you might encounter on the street or in domestic situations. Choke, be choked, and escape chokes! Punch, be punched, and block punches! Come prepared for a workout, but don't worry if you have physical limitations; krav is designed to work for the body you have. This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday September 11th
In The Cafe:
Top/bottom? How about both! The Switches Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. This is a munch for those who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything in between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch.
Cat Club is hosting Bondage A Go Go: Pants Off Dance Off. Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday September 12th
In The Cafe:
Rope Burn
Fetlife Facebook will be having their pre-jam meet up from 6-7pm before heading over to the Catalyst. This event is for male-identified, non binary and gender non conforming people interested in sharing rope tying knowledge and practicing together.
The Sex Magick Coffee Social will be meeting from 7-9pm. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.
Friday September 13th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday September 14th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Offsite:
We will be vending at Unity! at the Catalyst. Come play, socialize and shop from 7pm-1am.
Sunday September 15th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
At The Annex:
Join RodeoKitten from 1-3pm for Hit Me Harder! A Bottoms Communication to Deepen a Scene. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This class focuses on pain processing techniques and a new take on how to get the most out of safewords. The class then moves into giving bottoms the tools to play a larger role in the negotiation process. We will offer time for a group discussion as well as a short demo with the practical application of the material presented. While this class’s focal point is bottoms, we will be touching base on how tops can take utilize their self-aware bottoms to walk, run and push the edge of their pain threshold. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
From 4-6pm Jeff the Bear will be teaching Music to Set the Scene. FetlifeFacebook Meetup The right music can take your BDSM play to the next level! This class will teach you how to:
Discover music that best matches your favorite BDSM activities.
Enhance mood and energy without distracting.
Explore unusual genres from 70s porn soundtracks to spoken word erotica.
Have better sex!
The class will end with two simultaneous BDSM scenes demonstrating how the music can enhance any style of play.
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Cafe will close at 6:30 on Friday August 30th and will be closed all day Sunday September 1st and Monday September 2nd

Sunday September 1st
At The Annex:
Warrior Workout! Fetlife,
Meetup Facebook. will be taking place in the Annex from 7-9pm. This event from Master Fox, founder of Progressive Martial Arts SF, is designed to build well-rounded, modern warriors by blending martial arts, fitness, and social justice. This workout event is open to all levels and abilities; modifications and technique adjustments are an integral part of Master Fox's system. Tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets.
Our Pack Night series with Mx. Davey Faye continues with Celebrating the Pack from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Time to roar out in primal glory! Whether you've made it to every other PACK NIGHT event or this is your first time syncing into the pack mind, we invite you to revel in your rawest form and find the flow that fits your instincts in this positively primal play space. Somatic exercises continue to inform your animalistic explorations, while group drills stimulate fantasy and allow you to feel out your freest form. Come ready to join in the jubilation, and inspired to continue your primal journey! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.

Tuesday September 3rd
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup Fetlife will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Godless Perverts Facebook will be taking over the back room tonight from 7-9pm.
At The Annex:
RodeoKitten will be teaching Speaking From the Bottom from 7-9pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Learn how to better communicate your needs within a power dynamic, and how to do so with respect, devotion, and service. Speaking from the Bottom will give you the space to empower your top with your own open and honest communication, deepening your relationship and dynamic.
Speaking from the bottom is not some perfect call and response, especially when everyone's dynamic is different. It is an intentional and consistently conscious choice. The class will cover a range of things that affect communication skills ranging from NVC to body language and negotiated dynamic structure. The curriculum is built for those in all ranges of power exchanges such as DD/lg, D/s, M/s and all the things in between! Please purchase discounted tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets. Tickets are also available at the door at a higher price.
Wednesday September 4th
In The Cafe:
Rope Bite Fetlife will be meeting from 7-9pm for folks of all skill levels who want to connect and practice rope.
Be sure to make it over to the Cat Club at 9:30 for Bondage A Go Go: Back to the 90s. Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
At The Annex:
Loud and Queer continues their A Sip of... series with Needle Play from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Come join other curious folk for a crash course in a new kink topic every month and/or to simply drink tea with the kinky community! This month's event will be a beginner-focused workshop on needle play with open dialogue between participants and instructors. All participation levels welcome! Please purchase tickets in advance through Eventbrite or at the door.
Thursday September 5th
In The Cafe:
The Black & Pink Letter Writing Munch, a local group who facilitates letter-writing to incarcerated LGBTQ+ folks in need of community and connection. They will be meeting from 6-8pm. They will have info on folks to send letters to, all the supplies, and ways to get more involved in the movement to abolish prisons. Letter writing is one incredible way we have to overcome the isolation intended by the PIC. This is an important way to show solidarity with our incarcerated LGBTQ+ and HIV+ community members! Please consider lending your support (and stamps!) to this valuable mission.
At The Annex:
The author of The Heart of Dominance and The Dominance Playbook, Anton Fulmen, will be teaching Core Skills for Deep D/s from 7-9pm. Fetlife FacebookMeetup What does it take to be a great dominant or a sterling submissive? Power exchange is often talked about as though it springs from magical or innate ability. You’re either born a natural dominant or you aren’t. You have a true slave heart or you don’t. But it isn’t magic. The ability to create and maintain hot, vibrant power dynamics is supported by skills that we can learn, and that we can keep getting better at. They’re mental and emotional skills: invisible skills, subtle but powerful in their effects. Improving at them can help us dismantle roadblocks that have been getting in the way of having satisfying power exchange, or make a good thing even better. In this interactive workshop, we’ll explore the core skills that can make us proficient or excellent at giving and receiving consensual power. Please purchase discounted tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets. Tickets are also available at the door at an increased price.
Friday September 6th
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), AFAB (assigned female at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday September 7th
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munch will be meeting from 2-4pm Fetlife A monthly meeting and discussion group for monogamous kinky folk to meet other monogamous perverts for food, drink, discussion, and community! Meet to mingle and munch in the back room.
At The Annex:
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of each month. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. Stay tuned for this month’s topics. Purchase tickets in advance here. Tickets are also available at the door.
Sunday September 8th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.
At The Annex:
Mx. Davey Faye continues their series SPARC Sacred/Sadistic Play & Authentic Raw/Ritual Craft from 2-5pm. This Month’s topic is Blame the Woo: Energy & Science. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Let's cut to the quick: not everyone is "of the woo" but all humans rely on intuition, skills of observation, and this elegant energy-powered meat-sack we call our home - our bodies. The human body is proclaimed by philosophers, spiritual esoterics and scientists alike as a conduit, a system of electricity, a powerhouse of potential - get down to the nitty gritty of it, swallow anti-woo pride, and learn about, practice, even debate what it is to play with energy and examine those feels and coincidences that happen every so often as an innate part of the human experience. Learn what it means to be energetically sensitive, and coping skills for practitioners (and partners of) from all walks of life. Meditative and somatic techniques, channeling and intentive magicks, juicy warm up and soothing aftercare skills, and marginalized community awareness will be offered alongside lecture and group discussion. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

The Anti-Burn Sale! Monday, August 19th – Saturday, August 24th
Will you be In town this week? Forget the burn, and spend some time with us! We have some great specials on gear all week . . . and no playa dust to get all over your new leather. 
25% off 
Tantus
Bido
Stockroom
Books
10% off 
Rope and Rope accessories
VIP? Take an extra 10% off!!!
Thursday August 22nd
In The Cafe:
Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.
At The Annex:
Come join PsychoKitty for Fetish Games. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Are you looking to put some fun back into your play? Then come out as we demonstrate and test several "naughty" games. This class is particularly good for newcomers to kink, and will help you get your creative juices flowing! There will be multi-person party games, similar to People
Ping-Pong and the Three-Legged Lace as some more intimate challenges for at-home players. We will get your game started. You find the finish! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday August 23rd
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Clatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday August 24th
In The Cafe:
From 6-7:30pm HypnoHangout with Velvetine_Rabbit We will meet in the FRONT room of Wicked Grounds Cafe. Come socialize with HypnoSchool students and get to know this month's instructor, Velvetine_Rabbit! You do NOT need to attend today's HypnoSchool class in the Wicked Annex in order to join us for this free event.
At The Annex:
From 12-3pm join us for Cal’s Toy Making Workshop. Fetlife Facebook MeetupHave you ever wanted to make your own impact toys or restraints, but weren't sure how to start? Wouldn't it be amazing if you could work with an expert leatherworker to guide you through the process step by step? Well, now you can! Join us for a special hands-on toy-making workshop with Rough Cut Leather! Advance ticketing highly recommended so we can plan to have the materials you need on-site! Purchase through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Then from 4-6pm HypnoSchool will be teaching Song of the Siren: Seduction and Hypnosis. Fetlife Meetup Have you ever wanted to captivate someone with your eyes? What if you could make your partner feel drawn to you with a simple touch, or feel completely entranced, hanging on to your every word? The following are some of the things you’ll learn to do in this class. 
-Successfully set the scene for seduction
-Use your voice and body effectively to capture their attention
-Understand the psychology of desire and use it to your advantage
-Immerse your subject in a fantasy you create
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday August 25th
In The Cafe:
The Kinky Spirituality Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Join us for a scintillating conversation of the convergence of Kink/BDSM and Spirituality. The thoughts we bring, the intention, consciousness, and presence are more important than what we do. Consciousness and intention are the foundations of the sacred. The munch welcomes all spiritual and religious paths and is not based on any particular systems of practice. Each month we have a discussion on the intersection of Spirituality and Kink focusing on a particular topic.
Monday August 26th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm. 
The Kinky Writers Group Fetlife, Meetup will be getting together from 7-8:30pm to discuss the art of writing from a kinky perspective. Ever wanted to get together with other writers who are kinky? Want to write kinky erotica, paranormal kink, or just plain old regular literature by your kinky self with or without kinky scenes and people in it? Interested in discussing the ethics of kinky fantasies that are best left in the fantasy setting vs real life kink, with real kinky writers? This is the place!
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Sensory Deprivation. Fetlife Facebook Impact, Electricity, Needles... there are many classes that apply exquisite sensations, but this class is quite the opposite. What happens when the lights go out, the clatter is silenced and the sensations are ended? Throughout time, humans have found value in isolation and sensory deprivation, realizing inspiration, restoration and transcendence. This class discusses the benefits and challenges around the altered spaces provided by sensory deprivation. From negotiations to physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs, we’ll work to give everyone what is needed to create productive scenes. We will have an introductory demonstration and will discuss areas for possible further explorations. There are many ways to cause sensations, this class will show the magic that happens when they have ceased. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday August 27th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup Fetlife will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Afterwards, the Self-Suspenders Munch Fetlife will be meeting in the back from 7:30-9:00pm for folks with previous rope experience looking to expand their suspension skills.
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community FetlifeFacebook, Meetup This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday August 28th
In The Cafe:
The Littles Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook If you are interested in or curious about Ageplay, this is the perfect munch for you! We are the Littles Munch, a local meetup for Ageplayers of all kinds to hang out, discuss, and color! So whether you are a Big, little, or still exploring, everyone is welcome to join the fun!
The Cat Club will be hosting Bondage A Go Go: Sacrilicious Facebook Fetlifefrom 9:30pm. If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
At The Annex:
The San Francisco Dominant/submissive Discussion Group will be meeting from 7:30-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup This group is a monthly assembly for those with an interest in D/s and M/s relationships. We are an open and inclusive group that welcomes everyone who is interested in power exchange, control, protocol, service, and so forth, regardless of what their experience is or of which side of the dynamic slash they are on.
Sunday September 1st
At The Annex:
Warrior Workout! Fetlife,
Meetup Facebook. will be taking place in the Annex from 7-9pm. This event from Master Fox, founder of Progressive Martial Arts SF, is designed to build well-rounded, modern warriors by blending martial arts, fitness, and social justice. This workout event is open to all levels and abilities; modifications and technique adjustments are an integral part of Master Fox's system. Tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets.
Our Pack Night series with Mx. Davey Faye continues with Celebrating the Pack from 7-9:30pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Time to roar out in primal glory! Whether you've made it to every other PACK NIGHT event or this is your first time syncing into the pack mind, we invite you to revel in your rawest form and find the flow that fits your instincts in this positively primal play space. Somatic exercises continue to inform your animalistic explorations, while group drills stimulate fantasy and allow you to feel out your freest form. Come ready to join in the jubilation, and inspired to continue your primal journey! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.
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Thursday August 15th
In The Cafe:
Are you between the ages of 18 and 40 and are you interested in meeting people with similar interests, both vanilla and kinky? If so, you should join SFTNG for our special edition “caffeine hour.” We will be meeting from 7-9:30pm in the back of the cafe.
At The Annex:
Pack Night with Mx. Davey Faye will continue tonight 7-9:30pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup. The theme for this month is The Wounded Primal: Grief and Healing. Pain and pleasure both play important parts in the worlds of lust and power. While previous PACK NIGHT iterations have explored many forms of feeling alive and alight, this class will tune into somatic manifestation of primal suffering and sorrow, including group exercises designed to consensually challenge your individual and communal sense of safety. After holding space for our traumas and our loss, we will shift into compassionate work on finding softness and warmth in our rawest forms, and harnessing love of self along with love of chosen kin and fellow primal-kind. Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday August 16th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday August 17th
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
Come join Shay and Stefanos for F*ck Your Box! D/s for the Rest of Us. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Get out of the box and create your own unique power exchange dynamic! This class is about breaking away from traditional D/s or M/s to formulate relationship models and protocols that are unique to YOU. Stefanos & Shay will draw from their years of experience in an unconventional D/s relationship to discuss & demonstrate the use of creative protocols to establish headspace for a scene, including applying the concept of flow to make your scenes soar. They will start with verbal protocols, focused on manners of address and communicating within the mood of your dynamic (particularly from the s-types perspective). Next they'll cover physical protocols, with a focus on position training. Please purchase your tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday August 18th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
We will have a booth at Sunday Streets Leather Hub! Come join us from 11am-4pm to support your local leather businesses.
Monday August 19th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm. 
The Kinky Writers Group Fetlife, Meetup will be getting together from 7-8:30pm to discuss the art of writing from a kinky perspective. Ever wanted to get together with other writers who are kinky? Want to write kinky erotica, paranormal kink, or just plain old regular literature by your kinky self with or without kinky scenes and people in it? Interested in discussing the ethics of kinky fantasies that are best left in the fantasy setting vs real life kink, with real kinky writers? This is the place!
From 7pm- 9pm The Non-Monogamous Munch for the Young and Young at Heart will be meeting. This is a gathering for chatting, socializing, and generally getting up to wacky hijinks at Wicked Grounds. Traditionally this munch has been for those under 40, but we recently nixed the age restriction, everyone is welcome! We encourage folks of any age to attend, with the realization that this group tends to draw a younger crowd.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week’s topic is Floggers and Flogging (for Geeks)! with Tracy Wolf. Fetlife Facebook Have you ever wondered what specific features to look for in leather floggers from a certain species? Or even more, why people would want to use and carry multiple types of floggers? How about different lengths of floggers—what’s the point? What are the basics of handling a flogger and doing so safely? And how do you build up a good scene using different types of floggers? What should follow what and why? This class will answer those questions and many more, but be warned—there will be some serious geeking out over just about every element of floggers and flogging. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday August 20th
In The Cafe:
From 11am-1pm the Kinky Entrepreneurs Munch Fetlife will be meeting. This munch is sponsored by the Bay Area Kinky Business Alliance and is a perfect fit for owners of kink-oriented businesses, as well as anyone who is active in the kink community and welcomes kinky clients. From 1pm-5pm the Entrepreneurs Munch Co-Working hours with BAKBA will take place.
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Wednesday August 21st
In The Cafe:
The D/s Social Hour will meet from 7-9pm. A casual, coffeehouse munch for connecting with other people interested in consensual authority and control. For purposes of this event, we define "D/s" broadly, as any kind of consensual authority, control or leading and following. Folks who play with authority in sexy scenes are welcome, and so are folks pursuing full-time M/s relationships. Make friends with people who are as into power exchange as you are. Share ideas, inspiration and moral support for pursuing the kinds of consensual, intimate authority that feeds your soul. If you're already in a power dynamic, you'll find a community where your dynamic can be seen and valued. If you're looking for a dominant or submissive partner, you might find one! Come flirt gently and respectfully.
At The Annex:
Tonight, all those femme, frilly, and fabulous (as well as their admirers!) are cordially invited to Mistress Alice's Crossdressing Club. Fetlife Facebook MeetupNOW IN THE ANNEX! This group emphasizes FUN instead of "passing." None of us are perfect. No one here is the gender police. All gender is performative. Beards, body hair, flat chests, big bellies, baldness, mismatched clothes and flaws bless members of all genders and do not make you automatically un-feminine. Our members span a huge spectrum of gender expression. Come be yourself at our unique and supportive community munch and adventurous afterparty! The munch will adjourn to the Cat Club afterwards for Bondage-a-Go-Go: Kinky Couture Lingerie. Fetlife Facebook BAGG is a San Francisco classic! If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
Thursday August 22nd
In The Cafe:
Shy: The Unsocial Social will be meeting from 8-9:30PM for kinksters, queer folks, and all interested parties who identify as shy. This low-key munch is perfect for folks who want a quieter social experience, or find themselves overwhelmed in more traditional munches.
At The Annex:
Come join PsychoKitty for Fetish Games. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Are you looking to put some fun back into your play? Then come out as we demonstrate and test several "naughty" games. This class is particularly good for newcomers to kink, and will help you get your creative juices flowing! There will be multi-person party games, similar to People
Ping-Pong and the Three-Legged Lace as some more intimate challenges for at-home players. We will get your game started. You find the finish! Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday August 23rd
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Clatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday August 24th
In The Cafe:
From 6-7:30pm HypnoHangout with Velvetine_Rabbit We will meet in the FRONT room of Wicked Grounds Cafe. Come socialize with HypnoSchool students and get to know this month's instructor, Velvetine_Rabbit! You do NOT need to attend today's HypnoSchool class in the Wicked Annex in order to join us for this free event.
At The Annex:
From 12-3pm join us for Cal’s Toy Making Workshop. Fetlife Facebook MeetupHave you ever wanted to make your own impact toys or restraints, but weren't sure how to start? Wouldn't it be amazing if you could work with an expert leatherworker to guide you through the process step by step? Well, now you can! Join us for a special hands-on toy-making workshop with Rough Cut Leather! Advance ticketing highly recommended so we can plan to have the materials you need on-site! Purchase through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Then from 4-6pm HypnoSchool will be teaching Song of the Siren: Seduction and Hypnosis. Fetlife Meetup Have you ever wanted to captivate someone with your eyes? What if you could make your partner feel drawn to you with a simple touch, or feel completely entranced, hanging on to your every word? The following are some of the things you’ll learn to do in this class. 
-Successfully set the scene for seduction
-Use your voice and body effectively to capture their attention
-Understand the psychology of desire and use it to your advantage
-Immerse your subject in a fantasy you create
Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday August 25th
In The Cafe:
The Kinky Spirituality Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. Join us for a scintillating conversation of the convergence of Kink/BDSM and Spirituality. The thoughts we bring, the intention, consciousness, and presence are more important than what we do. Consciousness and intention are the foundations of the sacred. The munch welcomes all spiritual and religious paths and is not based on any particular systems of practice. Each month we have a discussion on the intersection of Spirituality and Kink focusing on a particular topic.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.

Thursday August 8th
In The Cafe:
Rope Burn
Facebook will be having their pre-jam meet up from 6-7pm before heading over to the Catalyst. This event is for male-identified, non binary and gender non conforming people interested in sharing rope tying knowledge and practicing together.
The Sex Magick Coffee Social will be meeting from 7-9pm. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.
At The Annex:
From 7-9pm join us for the Kinky/ Queer/ Fabulous Clothing Exchange! FetlifeFacebook Have some fetish gear that you don't wear any more? Realizing that your clothing no longer fits with your gender presentation? Just have too much stuff that's not your size or style any more? Looking for some great new clothes? Come get yours here! Free is always better than a sale! Tickets available at the door.
Friday August 9th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday August 10th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes. 
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Sunday August 11th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends. 
In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.
At The Annex:
From 11am-1pm Tarot 101: Now Without Gender Norms! Fetlife FacebookMeetups Have you ever felt weird about how a lot of people are like "The Emperor is your strong assertive MASCULINE energy and the Empress represents sweet nurturing fecund FEMININE energy" because like maybe femininity isn't always nurturing and fecund and maybe masculinity isn't always strong and assertive and maybe separating and gendering segments of our own personality is like... IDK dividing us from ourselves in unhealthy ways? Then do we have the class for you! Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
From 2-5pm Davey Faye continues their series SPARC Presents: Bite Me! Tooth and Claw! Fetlife Facebook Meetup Across many traditions, species-specific claws, bones, fur, and teeth all have been employed with particular intent for ritual. Why not also for play? Tune into various birds and beasts with opportunities to touch and wield handmade tools, and explore a selection of locally found stones known for energetic potentiality and capable of offering a range of sadistic or intense experiences. After a conversation around the impact of sensation both to the body and the psyche or spirit, we will make our own tooth or claw talismans not only intended as tools for play, but also as reflections of strength, self-discipline, and grounding. dermal reactivity. Bring work gloves, and be prepared to be stung! Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday August 12th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm. 
The Kinky Writers Group Fetlife, Meetup will be getting together from 7-8:30pm to discuss the art of writing from a kinky perspective.
New to kink or the community and looking for a good place to start? Come to the Society of Janus Newcomers Only Crash Course. Join us and fellow newcomers on the second Monday of the month. You can come as many times as you like while you still consider yourself new(ish) to the scene, usually up to one year. We'll answer questions and share experiences in an open respectful and casual setting.
In The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. Keep an eye on Erobay and Fetlife for this week’s class topic. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday August 13th
In The Cafe:
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
The Stampede Munch will be meeting from 8-9:30pm. Meet us at Wicked Grounds for a pet play munch! Buy some yummy pastries, sandwiches and milkshakes (in a pet bowl is an option too) and join new and old friends. We announce pet play events at every munch and try to get some play time too!
At The Annex:
Come get fit at Civilian Krav Maga: Self Defense for Our Community FetlifeFacebook, Meetup This class is open to anyone, regardless of gender or fitness level. Sliding-scale tickets are available through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Wednesday August 14th
In The Cafe:
Top/bottom? How about both! The Switches Munch will be meeting from 7-9pm. This is a munch for those who embrace the power of switching. Come here to spend time with fellow switches and participate in discussions around topping, bottoming and anything in between. We’ll also tackle challenges and complexity specific to being a switch. 
Cat Club is hosting Bondage A Go Go: Metal Night. Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
At The Annex:
The Intermediate Poly Workshop will be meeting from 7-9pm to discuss the intersections of spirituality and polyamory. Fetlife Facebook Meetup Avi will be leading the discussion and all those who are curious about this topic or are already living it as a significant part of their lifestyle are welcome to join. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets.
Thursday August 15th
In The Cafe:
Are you between the ages of 18 and 40 and are you interested in meeting people with similar interests, both vanilla and kinky? If so, you should join SFTNG for our special edition “caffeine hour.” We will be meeting from 7-9:30pm in the back of the cafe.
At The Annex:
Pack Night with Mx. Davey Faye will continue tonight 7-9:30pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup. The theme for this month is The Wounded Primal: Grief and Healing. Pain and pleasure both play important parts in the worlds of lust and power. While previous PACK NIGHT iterations have explored many forms of feeling alive and alight, this class will tune into somatic manifestation of primal suffering and sorrow, including group exercises designed to consensually challenge your individual and communal sense of safety. After holding space for our traumas and our loss, we will shift into compassionate work on finding softness and warmth in our rawest forms, and harnessing love of self along with love of chosen kin and fellow primal-kind. Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday August 16th
In The Cafe:
The Trans Nerd Meetup will be taking place from 7-9pm. Trans and/or nonbinary folk! Join us for an evening of nerdy conversation and revelry. Bring your board games, your Star Trek-themed knitting, and your opinions about science fiction and fantasy (or painting minis, or roleplaying games, or fan fiction, or the poems of Emily Dickinson, or birding, or the Age of Steam, or…?). Nerd culture is as broad and fathomless as human gender expression, so let’s spend an evening exploring both at once!
Saturday August 17th
In The Cafe:
The Crafty and Kinky Munch will be meeting from 4-6pm. Crafty & Kinky is a laid back munch for creators to get together and make stuff. All projects welcome from single tail braiding to cross stitch.
The Friendly Neighborhood Satanists will be meeting from 6-8pm.
At The Annex:
Come join Shay and Stefanos for F*ck Your Box! D/s for the Rest of Us. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Get out of the box and create your own unique power exchange dynamic! This class is about breaking away from traditional D/s or M/s to formulate relationship models and protocols that are unique to YOU. Stefanos & Shay will draw from their years of experience in an unconventional D/s relationship to discuss & demonstrate the use of creative protocols to establish headspace for a scene, including applying the concept of flow to make your scenes soar. They will start with verbal protocols, focused on manners of address and communicating within the mood of your dynamic (particularly from the s-types perspective). Next they'll cover physical protocols, with a focus on position training. Please purchase your tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Sunday August 18th
In The Cafe:
From 7-9pm Bring Your Human Animal Night is back, now hosted by San Francisco's K9 Unit! This is an event for all types of human pets: puppies, kitties, wolves, fawns, mice, ponies, handlers, trainers, human pet owners, and every other type of pet player imaginable. Come roughhouse in the back room, get your drink in a dog bowl, and bork your heart out! Please remember that, as a food service provider, Wicked Grounds cannot legally allow actual non-human attendees, with the exception of service animals.
We will have a booth at Sunday Streets Leather Hub! Come join us from 11am-4pm to support your local leather businesses.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.
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Thursday August 1st
In The Cafe:
The Black & Pink Letter Writing Munch, a local group who facilitates letter-writing to incarcerated LGBTQ+ folks in need of community and connection. They will be meeting from 6-8pm. They will have info on folks to send letters to, all the supplies, and ways to get more involved in the movement to abolish prisons. Letter writing is one incredible way we have to overcome the isolation intended by the PIC. This is an important way to show solidarity with our incarcerated LGBTQ+ and HIV+ community members! Please consider lending your support (and stamps!) to this valuable mission.
In The Annex:
Jarys will be teaching Chaos Theory from 7-9pm. Fetlife Facebook Meetup How did Emperor Norton inspire early internet engineers, writers, and playboy editors to found a religion? How did this conspiracy of Counter Culture writers and Chaos magicians reanimate the Illuminati? What is culture jamming and how did its influence on early hacker culture shape our current political affairs?
All these questions may be answered in this unique seminar on Norton, Discordianism, conspiracy theories, and practical jokes as political activism. Whether a student of counterculture or an enthusiast for San Francisco's influence on American thought, this class is sure to enlighten and/or confuse. Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Friday August 2nd
In The Cafe:
The FtM Munch Fetlife,
Facebook will be meeting from 6:30-8pm for those who are kinky (or interested), FAAB (female assigned at birth) and identify as a trans guy, FTM, trans boy/boi, and/or similar. Come hang out, socialize, and discuss the experiences we have in the kink community. Announcements of upcoming events or resources that are relative to us are welcome.
Saturday August 3rd
In The Cafe:
The Monogamy Munchwill be meeting from
2-4pm for monogamous kinksters who want to discuss their relationship style in the context of kink, BDSM, the scene, and etc.
At The Annex:
The Society of Janus BDSM Basics Workshop will take place the first Saturday of
each month. Are you a novice who wants to start playing in the dungeon? Do you need to build your skill set? Are you interested in learning safe techniques? Or do you just want some time to practice with an expert and get some pointers? This class is for both Tops and Bottoms because it benefits everyone to know proper play techniques. This month’s class will feature canes and negotiation skills. Fetlife Meetup Purchase tickets in advance here.
Sunday August 4th
At The Annex:
Join Albatross from 1-3pm for Pressure Points for Pain and Pleasure. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Everyone has a body. Which means most everyone has some way of creating pain that is potentially beneficial and relaxing, which is the best kind, right? Applying pressure to specific points on the body to create sensation, potentially even discreetly. The focus will be of the material will be on locating points covered in a Traditional Chinese Medicine curriculum through touch. The body has about 400 acupuncture points. Surely, we can put some of them to use in the dungeon and/or bedroom. You'll learn a general introduction to acupressure / acupuncture points, and a selection of about 20-30 points for most regions or angles of the body (that you can practice on yourself or a partner). Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Join Alexandria from Click Your Heels 3:30-5:30pm for Leading and Following: Non-Verbal Communication for D/s. Fetlife Facebook Meetup In this interactive class we borrow leading and following techniques from partnered dance and apply it to D/s. No dance understanding is required. No partner is required.
Using simple concentration and dance techniques, we explore the internal mind/body connection for Dominants and submissives, non-verbal communication between the leader and follower, and how this works in 24/7, scenes, and more.
Comfortable shoes are suggested because we will stand and walk for much of class. (Those with mobility issues easily accommodated.) Please purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
At night Mx. Davey Faye will be hosting Pack Night from 7-9:30pm. FetlifeFacebook Meetup Unleash the inner wild in a group format! PACK NIGHT is an intentionally created, recurring safer space for manifesting your evolving primal. What does your primal sound like, feel like how does it move can it play well with others? Using somatic movement and vocal exercises aimed to help you tap into the beastly beauty within, as well as emotional activators through eye contact and improvisation, the circle will be led to fall into a pack mind, blending the fierce (and the more sensitive) primal energies in the room with the common goal to release and revel in our creature-selves. Please click through any of the links above for an in-depth description of this event! Sliding-scale tickets are available from Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
Monday August 5th
In The Cafe:
Foundations Office Hours will meet
from 6-6:30pm.
The Kinky Writers Group Fetlife, Meetup will be getting together from 7-8:30pm to discuss the art of writing from a kinky perspective.
At The Annex:
Foundations now meets in the Annex every Monday evening from 7pm - 9pm with a wide range of weekly topics. This week is Oops, We Hit a Landmine. Have you had a scene that went south? Don’t know what to do when emotional issues arise? Come get practical skills and learn some emotional first aid in a community environment. This class will teach you the basics of what goes on in your brain when landmines go off and how to put the pieces back together after. There will also be talk about terminology and ways to communicate with your partners when they enter activated states. This is not a topic that is often discussed in detail so please bring your questions and come ready to learn. You do need a sponsor to attend Foundations classes, but it's easy to get sponsored -- just come to their office hours in the cafe (info above) before class.
Tuesday August 6th
In The Cafe:
From 2-5pm come join the Kinky Coders for
an afternoon of working on programming projects, networking, picking up new languages, and making new friends. All experience levels of programming are welcome, whether you're been programming since punch cards, or are starting your first codecademy lesson. This is a great place to run into some experienced programmers to help you out if you're stuck. Are you a person of color or a woman or nb? Come combat tech industry imposter syndrome-- this event is run by women. Bring your own vanilla project, your code tutorials, or a kinky project.
The Bay Area Rope Club
Meetup, Fetlife, will be meeting in the back from 6-7pm for their mini-munch, before heading over to Citadel for their weekly skillshare. New to rope? This is a great event for making connections in the rope community, learning new skills, and seeing experienced riggers in action.
Godless Perverts will be taking over the back room tonight from 7-9pm.
Wednesday August 7th
In The Cafe:
Rope Bite will be meeting from 7-9pm for folks of all skill levels who want to connect and practice rope.
Afterwards head over to Bondage A Go Go for Brat Attack! Fetlife Facebook If this is your first time at the club, we advise wearing all black, fetishwear, or dressing up for the theme. And if you stop by the cafe first, don't forget to ask your friendly barista to stamp your receipt for a discount on entry to BAGG.
At The Annex:
Loud and Queer Presents: A Sip of Electro Play from 7-9:30pm Fetlife FacebookMeetup Come join other curious folk for a crash course in a new kink topic every month and/or to simply drink tea with the kinky community! This month's event will be a beginner-focused workshop on electro play with open dialogue between participants and instructors. All participation levels welcome! Purchase tickets in advance through Eventbrite or at the door.
Thursday August 8th
In The Cafe:
Rope Burn
Facebook will be having their pre-jam meet up from 6-7pm before heading over to the Catalyst. This event is for male-identified, non binary and gender non conforming people interested in sharing rope tying knowledge and practicing together.
The Sex Magick Coffee Social will be meeting from 7-9pm. This informal social is open to anyone who is interested in the intersection of magic(k) and sexuality, at all levels of experience. We will be talking about magic(k) broadly, and all practitioners from all traditions (or none!) are welcome.
At The Annex:
From 7-9pm join us for the Kinky/ Queer/ Fabulous Clothing Exchange! FetlifeFacebook Have some fetish gear that you don't wear any more? Realizing that your clothing no longer fits with your gender presentation? Just have too much stuff that's not your size or style any more? Looking for some great new clothes? Come get yours here! Free is always better than a sale! Tickets available at the door.
Friday August 9th
In The Cafe:
California Community of Men Coffee Klatch will be meeting from 7-9pm.
Saturday August 10th
In The Cafe:
The Milk Munch will be meeting from
11:30am-1:30pm for those interested in discussion of any type of lactation play. Mention that you're attending the munch to get 10% off of milkshakes.
Kinky, Colorful, Conscious: a POC roundtable discussion Fetlife Facebook will be in the cafe from 2-5pm. This group, inspired by Colorful Kinksters Vancouver and associated with VoxBody Studio, aims to build a space for kinky/LGBTQ+/queer people of color. If you are interested in this event, please read the event listing and attendee requirements (linked above) in detail. If you have questions as to whether this event would be a good event for you, please contact KCCVOX@gmail.com.
Sunday August 11th
In The Cafe:
The Erotic Hypnosis Peershare will be
meeting from 3-5pm at the cafe, with an introduction for those new to hypnosis, erotic or otherwise, from 2-3pm. This is a discussion and workshop munch where attendees can show everybody something new about hypnosis. Teach and learn some new hypnosis concepts, discuss ethics and consent, learn and practice technique, and meet some new friends. Come with a partner, by yourself, or with a party of all of your best friends.
In the evening from 6-8pm, Unity will be meeting in the back. This discussion group/munch is for kinksters, queers, alternative relationship stylers, and general scene goers to get together and find support with one another. It's not easy handling abuse alone: that's what this group is for. We will be getting together once a month to eat, talk, and help support each other in healing any way we can. This is a freely structured discussion group, after an introduction and safe space guidelines are established, you're welcome to talk to one another, pose questions or topics to the group, or just be with us. No participation is required. All that we ask is that everyone keeps an open mind.
At The Annex:
From 11am-1pm Tarot 101: Now Without Gender Norms! Fetlife FacebookMeetups Have you ever felt weird about how a lot of people are like "The Emperor is your strong assertive MASCULINE energy and the Empress represents sweet nurturing fecund FEMININE energy" because like maybe femininity isn't always nurturing and fecund and maybe masculinity isn't always strong and assertive and maybe separating and gendering segments of our own personality is like... IDK dividing us from ourselves in unhealthy ways? Then do we have the class for you! Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
From 2-5pm Davey Faye continues their series SPARC Presents: Bite Me! Tooth and Claw! Fetlife Facebook Meetup Across many traditions, species-specific claws, bones, fur, and teeth all have been employed with particular intent for ritual. Why not also for play? Tune into various birds and beasts with opportunities to touch and wield handmade tools, and explore a selection of locally found stones known for energetic potentiality and capable of offering a range of sadistic or intense experiences. After a conversation around the impact of sensation both to the body and the psyche or spirit, we will make our own tooth or claw talismans not only intended as tools for play, but also as reflections of strength, self-discipline, and grounding. dermal reactivity. Bring work gloves, and be prepared to be stung! Purchase tickets in advance through Brown Paper Tickets or at the door.
All events are open to any Wicked Grounds customer, at any level of kink/BDSM experience. We hope you'll come out and learn more about the extremely diverse SF kink community! Low on funds, and need a safe space? Ask your barista about redeeming a support coffee (or tea, lemonade, etc.), pre-paid by another friendly member of our community.
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