The first Wednesday of every month is Rope Bondage Wednesday at Wicked Grounds!
Come out for three bondage events in one!
These events are open to all levels of experience. If you can tie your shoes, we can help you learn
everything you need to know about bondage play.
The rope bondage fun starts at 6pm with a DeGiotto Rope Mini Trunk Show in the front room. Our resident rope nerds will be on hand to help you get the best natural fiber bondage ropes and rope books for your specific style.
Then Rope Bite SF kicks off in the back room with a tutorial at 7pm, and continued peer skill sharing throughout the night.
And don't forget to hold on to your Wicked Grounds receipts for $10 or more at this event. Those will get you discounted admission to Bondage-a-Go-Go at the Cat Club if you'd like to keep playing well into the night.
Into rope? Or maybe you want to get into rope but don't know where to start? This is the week for you.
This Monday, 11/2, the SF Citadel will host their monthly Peer Rope Workshop from 7:30 - 10pm. The workshop always includes a tutorial for complete beginners, and offers plenty of floor and suspension space for more experienced players. Cost: $10.
On Wednesday, 11/4, we will be hosting a couple of rope events at Wicked Grounds. Our monthly DeGiotto Rope Mini Trunk Show will be happening in the front room starting at 6pm, where we will have rope nerds on hand to help you find the best natural fiber ropes and books for you. Rope Bite SF, our monthly peer skill share rope munch, will kick off with a tutorial in the back room at 7pm and will continue with rope fun throughout the cafe.
If you don't want the fun to stop on Wednesday, head over to the Cat Club for Bondage-a-Go-Go, a dance party with an R-rated dungeon for rope and impact play.
On Thursday, 11/5, Kink.com will be hosting Bound to the Core: Exploring the Hip Harness for Suspension, presented by Bondage Erotique at 7pm.
On Friday, 11/6, we will be hosting the bi-monthly Rope Lovers' Rope Social. This social gathering is designed to help you connect with the many rope resources in San Francisco.
And of course you can stop by Wicked Grounds any time for information on the best in natural fiber ropes, rope bondage books, and local resources. Our friendly local kink concierges are cleverly disguised as baristas, but happy to help you with all your kink toy and local party needs.
Stay kinky, my friends.
"I'm interested in tying someone up. What rope should I start with?"
It's a question we get nearly every day at Wicked Grounds, but there's no one right answer. What's best for you depends largely on what you want to achieve and your previous experience.
Below are some recommendations based on us having these conversations every day. Learning to tie well and safely is very important, and we strongly recommend checking out not only the expertise from bondage books but as many classes and skill-shares as you can. The advice below should not be taken as a substitute for expert training.
Starting out with the best lengths
The right amount of rope will depend on what you want to accomplish, but we tend to recommend starting with at least two 30' lengths and two 15' lengths. This will give you enough for a nice chest harness/ corset and with smaller lengths to tie up wrists or ankles.
Finding the right type of rope
First, what is it you want to do with the rope? A few questions to ask yourself:
Your answers will help guide you to the right rope for you.
Most of the time, we recommend natural fiber hemp rope as a starting point. Hemp is really a best of both worlds rope for people who are into either Western or Japanese style bondage. Hemp has enough friction (or "tooth") to hold most ties with very simple knots, hitches and half-hitches, but is soft and flexible enough that it can be used for more decorative knot-work as well. It's a good rope for someone who enjoys rope artistry but doesn't know -- or care to learn -- enough knots to earn a scouting badge. The rope will tend to stay where you laid it, but does offer a bit of movement with the body.
The vibrancy of hemp rope can vary significantly depending on how the rope is manufactured. We believe that deGiotto Hemp rope offers some of the most vibrant hemp rope on the market, because they dye their hemp all the way down to the thread level before winding the rope, giving color to the bone. (By contrast, many manufacturers wind the rope before dying, which can dampen the vibrancy of the color.)
Hemp rope is also relatively durable, and will usually last two years or more depending on the level of use. You can easily extend the life of your hemp rope by washing as infrequently as feasible and treating the rope occasionally with a rope oil or rigger and rope lotion.
If you are really into shibari and kinbaku styles, jute rope might be the right choice. Jute tends to be the rope of choice in traditional Japanese bondage, and photographs beautifully. The rope tends to stay exactly where laid -- particularly if you choose extremely toothy 2-ply jute. Because of this, jute requires fewer knots to stay in place compared to other natural fibers, and you can easily construct a full chest harness with mostly hitches and wraps. Jute is relatively stiff compared to other natural fibers, and is snug on the body.
Because it gives less than other fibers, jute is often considered a more sadistic rope than other natural fibers. The strong friction or tooth offered by jute rope means that it very well suited for quick bondage and take down ties with few knots. For the same reasons, jute is not very well suited to decorative knot-work.
Jute is challenging to dye, so it is most frequently found in a naturally shiny undyed form, or occasionally in a very deep custom dye.
Jute also has a long life, and can be maintained periodically with the use of rope wax.
If you're more into the western or Bettie Page style, bamboo silk may be the perfect rope for you. This rope is made of 70% bamboo for strength, and 30% silk for softness. It is a great bedroom or "pajama" rope -- unbelievably soft and luxurious.
If you've already explored tying with cotton or nylon rope, bamboo silk is a very natural transition to higher-end natural fiber ropes. Because this rope is so soft and has very low friction or tooth, it is very easy to use for extremely decorative knot-work. It will also require more knots to stay in place compared to hemp or jute, and you should expect your rope to move with the body.
If you are looking to tie a rope corset to go out dancing, this is the perfect rope! However, you should not use it for any purpose where your ropes must stay exactly where laid. (For example, any kind of partial or full suspension.) Bamboo silk also holds extremely vibrant color, simply perfect for corsets and gauntlets. And it's so soft, your bottom may never want out of it.
One thing to be aware of is that the same features that make bamboo silk so soft also render it extremely delicate. With extremely delicate care, you can expect this rope to last for about six months of moderate use, and it should only be washed if absolutely necessary. If it becomes necessary to wash it, treat bamboo silk like antique lingerie - cold hand wash and gentle line dry, please.
If you're looking to tie outside, nylon or other synthetic ropes might be your better choice. Natural fibers are much more likely to pick up environmental contaminants such as leaves, bark or dirt, and don't hold up as well to washing. Natural fibers are also more likely to become frayed when used outside. That's not necessarily a deal-breaker, but something to consider if you prefer to do outdoor work.
If you are looking to do scenes where your rope may get wet, nylon rope is a much better choice. Natural fibers can become waterlogged and tighten when wet, creating a potentially dangerous constriction.
(Update 12/15/17: We now offer DeGiotto Synthetic Hemp P.O.S.H. rope, which is easy to clean and can easily be used in applications where the ropes may get wet or messy.)
Nylon ropes are also extremely well regarded for decorative ties since they have low tooth. (For similar reasons, they need more knots to stay in place for other purposes.) Nylon is also significantly less expensive than natural fiber ropes.
Questions? Never hesitate to write us for recommendations! Orders@WickedGrounds.com.
WickedMir is a rope nerd, bibliophile, coffee roaster and a proud Wicked Grounds owner.